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it’s that time of year, i guess!

((I CAN’T believe that I have to say this, but I do NOT tolerate m//xvid shippers and if you follow me, you will be blocked, point blank period.

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The fact of the matter is that some of yall just don’t know how to behave. This is not a vaguepost, this is not about one or two people. This is a consistent problem that we have seen in our server, from multitudes of people.

Should the mod team, myself included, maybe not have made assumptions about Cupid’s post last night? Yeah, and I’m sorry about that, because if those posts really were about family issues then who needs the stress of being reprimanded for something totally unrelated? That’s invasive and uncalled for, and I want to apologize for assuming the worst of those posts.

That being said, I want to shift to a greater view of the community and its issues for a moment. This next part is not a direct attack on any one person or issue, but I think the assumptions made last night are a perfect example and segue into what I feel needs to be said about the behavior in this community as a whole.

Did the mod team have a reason to make the assumption they did? Again - yeah. Because on top of the posts being, well, vague, they were also very inconveniently timed, and this cycle of events (problem, mod intervention, shit talking, vagueing, harassment) has happened countless times just in the two months I’ve been a mod and it’s unbelievable to witness. No matter how many times we said not to vague people, no matter how many times we asked people to take their concerns to us, no matter how many times we tried to get some of yall to act reasonably and maturely, it all comes back to the same stupid cycle of events: the mods try to handle a problem, and no matter what the outcome, someone is dissatisfied and goes behind our backs to vague and harass people over it. 

So here’s the long short of it: If you build a reputation of being combative and disrespectful, of refusing to listen to reason, or of abusing the systems we put in place to help everyone, then eventually you are going to face the consequences of that reputation. If you have a history of crying wolf, people aren’t going to believe you when there really is a wolf. And yeah, it might suck, and it might not always be fair, but that’s the price you pay for your social choices. It’s on you to repair the trust relationship between yourself and the people who distrust you to act with reason and kindness. And that doesn’t just apply to our community here at Camp Campbell. That’s how any social sphere is going to work, and some of you are going to have a real tough time in your communities until that sinks in and you start behaving.

Last night, the mod team made the decision to put the RP server on a short hiatus due to the frequency of these issues. I think that was the right call, because they have tried very hard to make this work, to create a space for the community to come together and have fun, but have gotten nothing in return but harassment, disdain, name calling, and underhanded tomfoolery. 

A lot of you don’t seem to understand, that the people who run these spaces don’t owe you anything. Like, at all. We do this because we want to provide, out of our own time and patience, a gathering place for the community.  And by joining those community spaces, you are agreeing to abide by the rules we lay down. You are not granted the right to shit all over people when they fail to meet your expectations or won’t side with you in an argument. I know a lot of you are young, but that is unacceptable behavior, full stop.

We want to be your friends, but we’re not your posse, and our job as moderators first and foremost is to make sure that these servers are a welcoming, safe, and friendly environment for ALL of our users. Leave your issues at the door, because we’re not going to allow users to harass and ostracize others over personal grievances. That shouldn’t be a radical stance.

However, as Daisy said, on more than one occasion now we have dealt with this exact situation in which we try to deal with a situation and are promptly slapped in the face by something we see on the dash that clearly has to do with us and how we handled it. We’ve dealt with anything from vagueposts to anon hate regarding this server, and- regardless of who you are or why you’ve done it- it’s unacceptable. It leaves everyone on edge and results in months of tensions rising and culminating into a situation like this. 

The assumptions we made were not baseless- Not by a long shot- but that’s a personal problem and not our dirty laundry to air. The last thing we want to do is wave “receipts” around in the air like some kind of battle cry when all that we want is the minimum amount of respect that anyone would ask for.

The worst part is, is that this situation is not exclusive to one or two people. Yes, we may have had our metaphorical rope fray and snap last night, but that’s because of literal months of this sort of behavior that we’ve dealt with from nearly ever member/group in that server. 

I’ve watched this community have highs and lows with conflict and resolution, but this is by far the worst I have ever seen it. What was supposed to be a server for the community to come together has done nothing but tear it apart more because everything we do upsets someone. 

We’ve been called ableist for expressing concerns about OCs that had the same traits as members on the mod team, we’ve been accused of harassing people for expressing concerns with racist designs, we’ve been told we’re harassing people for pointing out questionable behaviour in certain ships, such as literaly abuse- The list goes on. We’ve done all we can to combat these things, from exposing parts of ourselves we didn’t want (or have) to in order to justify our concerns, removing people from the mod team and the server, going out of our way to DM people about their concerns with conflicts we didn’t even know was happening, etc, etc, etc.

There’s only so much we can do, even as a group, before we become exhausted and irritated and start to jump to conclusions ourselves that people are talking about us, especially when paired with the fact that it would not be the first time. 

Was it wrong of us to assume like that and respond the way we did? Yes, and I’m sorry that this is how we handled it. Nobody deserves extra stressors when dealing with situations like this- I’ve been there, I’m still there, I understand how it feels.

I know that this does not excuse our responses, but I hope it helps explain why we reacted the way we did. This is not the first time we’ve had this sort of thing come up, and for months now we’ve been asking people to be productive and direct with us about things, and yet we still receive passive aggressive messages, vague posts, anon hate, and so on and so forth. 

This sort of behavior isn’t acceptable in any community, and needs to be addressed in one way or another. The only thing being accomplished with any of this is further conflict and discomfort, and leaves people feeling like they aren’t welcome in the very community they helped build.