There’s date night outfits, and then there’s my date night outfits ₍˄·͈༝·͈˄*₎◞ ̑̑ 

Marc Jacobs fall 2016 Ready-To-Wear

first time doing ero lolita. had so much fun at the AN lolita tea party

rundown

-blouse: cant remember, probably thrifted

-skirt: H.Naoto Frill

-headdress: handmade

To which the manager (internally, because she doesn’t want to be fired), went “you’ve got to be fucking shitting me.”

Here’s the thing: it is totally possible to do a job for the passion and not be obsessively thinking about the money every minute of every day. In fact, there have been economic studies regarding that very thing.

You know when it starts?

When the employee in question is making $50-75k per year.*

That’s the starting point of financial security. That’s the point when you’re fairly secure that you’re going to have rent, food, and basic living expenses covered. 

I’ve worked a lot of jobs over the years. A lot. I saw the same working as a freelancer– when I charged lower rates, my clients treated me like shit and acted like they were doing me a favor; when I charged more, they respected me as a professional. A newspaper that started out paying me above market wage also treated me very kindly, because they started with the assumption that I was a human being who needs to eat.

In my experience, the employers that insist that your job be your “passion” are also the ones that pay you nothing and treat you like garbage. It’s exactly like abusive people, who tell you that you would put up with their abuse if you “loved them enough”. It’s a way of convincing the victim that they’re responsible for their own mistreatment, which is absolutely fucked up.

Here’s my advice to you:

I just got really happy because I remembered that this show exists. 

I got these boots from rue 21 for 3 dollars cuz the store was closing at the mall in pier park lol

I recently attended @paradiso-for-us to participate in their first-ever 2017 Ouji-sama pageant. The whole event was magical! I made around 95% of my shironuri-fae-prince coordinate from scratch, and while I still see several flaws (I didn’t have my long gloves, my wig flattened itself, etc), I’m super proud of what I managed. And even more proud of my title of “Prince of the Eternal Reverie” ♥ Fitting for the younger brother of the Seelie court’s Duke of Flowers, no?

I’m also really glad to have brought my cane. Hooooo boy I almost didn’t but there’s a reason why I’m sitting in these photos.

Photos taken by the charming, sweet dear that is Hello Batty. I’m not sure if she has a tumblr but here is a link to her YouTube channel!