Trans Help And Advice

I'm sorry our blog isn't constantly updated and questions aren't always answered right away, but the fact that you guys still follow means a lot! If anyone wants to be a mod, we're accepting applications!! In celebration of TDOV, I thought it would be really cool if you guys could send in some of your positive coming out stories for us to share with our followers. Good vibes never hurt!

We give advice that we think we're able to give, and if we don't think we're necessarily able to answer your question we try to post it to ask our followers if they have any advice. Though I'll admit that right now the blog is running awfully slowly, so.

Just send this account a message with answers to the questions on the application. Please, if anyone wants to be a mod send in an application! I don't really have the time to constantly be checking this blog, and clearly the other mods don't either so we'd all really appreciate it!-Zeke

Don't wear it if you're sick!Start wearing it for only and hour or two at a time then work your way up!If you feel any discomfort, take it off!If you feel pain, try to go a day or two without wearing it!After you take it off, cough!Wash it by hand and hang it up to dry!If any followers have anything else to add, feel free!-Zeke

Check online.

Contour👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻There are a lot of charts online for how to contour your face to make it look more masculine and it was a lifesaver for me. -Zeke

It is possible, but it is not good to do often! If needed you can use it to postpone your period, but you shouldn't do that for longer than a week or so because it can make your body sick. If you want to stop your period altogether I'd recommend you talk to your doctor about the depo shot. -Zeke

All you need is a positive and supportive attitude, and it already seems like you have that! I say he's lucky to have a pal like you. Also, make sure he follows the doctors orders. Being happy and positive is important, but make sure he stays in bed and doesn't do anything that the doctor says he shouldn't. Be the parental friend while he needs it. -Zeke

When I came out to my mom to her face finally, she just told me to "fake it 'til you make it', as in pretend to be a girl and I'll figure out it was just a faze. I say no matter what happens, use that logic backwards. Pretend you're happy and don't care what anyone tells you until it eventually becomes the truth and you don't care what they say. Aside from that, make sure you're in a safe situation to come out.

I'm so sorry this is your experience 😞Just try doing things that make you feel better about yourself and boost your esteem. For me personally, if I'm trying to pass and I'm feeling put down by people misgendering me I do things like wear cologne or comfortable boxers or sometimes I'll put makeup on so it looks like I have stubble. So when you're feeling down, maybe try wearing laced underwear or going to a spa or something else that might make you feel better about yourself. Try it and see what works for you☺️-Zeke

This might just be a question for your s/o. Some things that could potentially help would be to shower your s/o with compliments (without it seeming fake), always being there to listen when they need to rant, and especially letting them know that if they need anything, you'll always be available to help to the best of your abilities! Aside from that, all people are different so communicating with them to see what help they need from you is your best bet. How they need up could be very different from what any of the mods on here need. -Zeke

This !!!

Fear of rejection is totally legitimate. When I first started to transition I couldn't even think about getting surgery because my biggest fear is that I still wouldn't pass and be rejected even more than I already would. My advice would be to cross that bridge when it comes. If you want top surgery, get it! If you don't want bottom surgery, don't get it! I'm not going to tell you that every single person you meet will be accepting of that, because that's not necessarily true. However, I will tell you that some people will, and that's all you really have to focus on. People on the street won't even know, and it could be a good thing when it comes to a relationship! If you're in a relationship with someone who isn't accepting of trans people but they don't know you're trans, that could put you in a really uncomfortable situation. If you choose not to get surgery it'll cast out all those negative people from the get-go, and I'm sure you will find people who are accepting of it. Hope that helps!-Zeke

Super late !! I'm so sorry!!I was in a really similar situation before I came out. Honestly, do whatever makes you most comfortable. If you think she might cry and you don't want to be around for it, maybe leave her a letter or something on your table when you leave for school. If you think she might have a lot of questions maybe let her know in person if you think you would be willing to sit through the tears if needed. I wrote a long coming out post and put in on Facebook without tagging my mom in it, and even though she saw it she pretended not to, so maybe don't go about it that way. For my dad I wrote a very long letter including a lot of information and definitions to back myself up and left it on a table for him. -Zeke

Hey, original creator of the blog here !! I haven't used this blog in quite a long time, sorry about that, but I'm glad to see that other admins have kept it going! That being said, it doesn't seem to be super active so I was thinking some new admins would be helpful to get this thing back up and running. If you're interested please send in an application with your age, gender, sexuality, a bit about yourself, and why you think you should be an admin or mod or whatever you'd like to call it and we'll go from there. Also to whoever was a mod on here, I changed the password, sorry. Just shoot this blog a message and I'll let you know what the new password is. -Zeke

Alan