So I’m not here for the shipping with Eyal, but I have a very detailed idea about this.
After a failed marriage and after having been repeatedly played and subsequently rejected by someone for whom he cares a great deal [coughAnniecough], Eyal isn’t exactly as sure-footed with genuine romance as what he would like others to think.
Oh sure, he can romance with the best of them when it’s a facade, when it’s something distant, when it’s not actually him.
Now this isn’t to say that I think that he couldn’t be romantic still. In fact, I believe that if it were with the right person, he would be incredibly so, though perhaps not in the way of the typical “romanticization” of romance.
I feel like, with Eyal, someone who’s in the ‘settling down’ stages of life, romance isn’t sappy poetry or anything like that––although he probably wouldn’t be beyond quoting a sonnet from Shakespeare off the top of his head because, really, the Bard is a master with words––but mostly it’s more downplayed than that.
For him, knowing how his marriage fell apart––because he was too focused on his goals and his “needs” (such as avenging his sister)––a lot of romance would be little gestures, basically just showing consideration for the other person, hence what we see with his actions toward Annie.
It doesn’t matter how many times his feelings for her come back to bite him, he always puts her first. Like when he starts lying to his Boss when she asks for information on Agent Walker. Like when he refuses to sleep with Annie to manipulate her. Like when he tries to distance himself from her to protect her. Like EVERY. SINGLE. TIME that he tries to make his feelings clear to Annie and then finds out that she’s already with some other guy AGAIN, and he masochistically encourages her and gives her words of advice. In all of this, his consideration is to Annie and she doesn’t even halfway return that level of commitment and support.
This, asking a woman if he can kiss her, is exactly something I could see him doing, as much to show consideration to her as to assure himself that he isn’t putting his heart out there again to get torn apart.
Because, let’s face it. With Ranite and with the loss of his sister and of his father and with his very toxic relationship with Annie, I’ve mentioned it before, but Eyal’s heart has basically just been taped back together, armor-plated, and fortified. It’s never actually healed, which is something that would be a challenge to any new relationship to be certain.
Yet, if someone were to get past his armor, if someone were able to get to him, as damaged as he and his heart are, Eyal doesn’t love in half measures. I mean, he was willing to risk his career and his life saving Annie from, what had been touted as, an impenetrable/inescapable prison.
Basically, what I’m getting at is that he has learned from past mistakes. When he loves someone (and not even only romantically, this would be just as true for a dear friend), he will always put them first and he will be extremely loyal, which is why it’s so important for him to find good friends/love interests who won’t take advantage of that.
Anyway. So that started with one explanation and expanded into something else, but there’s basically a long (and not even the full) description of my idea of Eyal and romance (and also briefly touching on him and friendships).