˚ʚ♡ 𝔹𝕖𝕟𝕟𝕚𝕖 𝕁𝕖𝕣𝕣𝕪♡ɞ˚

If you're here because I said something you didn't like, or because you want to spew hateful messages in my inbox, please do something more productive with your time.

Any hate speech and threats will be deleted, blocked, and if it is bad enough--I will report it.

Example:

If my existence truly gets you that upset, you have my full permission to block me. I do not care. I'll do what I want with my blog.

I'll apologize for miscommunication. I'll apologize for being unclear in my speech or opinions. But I will not apologize for using my freedom of speech to state them.

You're allowed to think I'm a villain. You're allowed to hate me. You can even call me the devil. I can't change how you look at me nor do I think it's worth the effort to try. But I am under no obligation to tolerate blatant threats that I know for a fact no sane human being would say to another stranger in real life.

To anyone on my blog who sends me hateful, terrible, or threatening stuff, I hope you understand now that when you send me that, I am notified via my emails. And when I am given the email of what you sent me, it is documented. I actively store that in my collection to send to the authorities so you can be dealt with. I am not scared to report people. I do not care how justified you think you are.

If you hate me, there's a very simple solution.

So apparently there's a lot of debate about whether Bear or Nikki from the movie "Obsession" was the villain of the film. And I wanted to put my own thoughts on it. First of all, it's amazing. Go watch it.

My question is why is this even a debate? Bear is absolutely the villain and anyone who thinks otherwise just sounds like a future sex offender to me. I literally don't see how Bear ISN'T the villain of his own story. Could you imagine being possessed by a demon all because some loser didn't wanna be upfront with his feelings and risk rejection?

And then by the time Bear actually learned what the wish was doing to Nikki, he didn't ask for it to be removed at all. He just asked to alter the wish. Bear never ever gave a crap about Nikki, it was all about getting what he wanted. This guy knew that Nikki was suffering inside of her own body, being forced to love him and he legit doesn't care. And even then, after all of this, HE STILL CHEATED ON HER WITH ANOTHER WOMAN IN THE CAR!

He doesn't care that he was basically raping Nikki (because the real Nikki was not consenting), didn't care that whatever possessed or changed her to love him was causing her to murder people. Nikki not having autonomy over her own being was only a problem when it personally inconvenienced HIM.

Nikki is suffering so bad that she straight up says, "End my suffering" and all Bear said in response was, "What's so bad about being with me?" That is absolutely DIABOLICAL to me. WHAT ON EARTH DO YOU MEAN "What's so bad?" I CAN MAKE A MOUNTAIN OF REASONS-

Bear does not love Nikki. He was obsessed with her (no duh, the movie is literally called Obsession), and the wish was merely reflecting an more intense nature of the actual 'love' that Bear felt for Nikki. Bear was not actually into Nikki as a person. He was into this idea he had of her.

And before someone says it, yes. I understand Bear was lonely. He had terrible friends. He's 'the lonely nice guy.' But absolutely none of that justifies the fact he found out that the 'girl he loves' was suffering and utterly refused to do what's best for her and end the wish ASAP until it literally got to a point of no return.

Bear effectively ruined Nikki's life by just not giving up the darn wish and took the coward's way out by killing himself. After Nikki becomes her true self again, she's probably gonna go to prison for a LONG time. There's no way she isn't. The demon or the wish or whatever the heck caused her to murder a bunch of people. She's most likely not gonna walk a free woman. Her life was ruined by a scumbag.

Nikki cannot be anything but a victim in this story and if you think she isn't, you are absolutely someone I don't really want the displeasure of speaking to. Yes, it's a fictional movie---but men like Bear anger me so bad because there's SO MANY OF THEM. Men like Bear think they are entitled to have you just because they want you as a woman-shaped solution to their deeper problems that they refuse to look at.

Yes, Bear was lonely. But Bear is a grown man who should've taken the chance to change his own situation---which he didn't do. If his friends are so mean and bad to him, he should've gotten other friends. And I understand that might be hard to do for some people, but Bear legit only just saw Nikki as a cure, not a person. He was obsessed with what she could potentially do for him, not because he actually liked her.

If you hate men for being men, you are sexist. If you genuinely think that every single man is trash, then you are sexist. Sexism is not just a one way street. If a man hates men, he is sexist. If a woman hates women, she is sexist.

Sexism is literally hating someone based on their sex because you have preconcieved notions about said sex.

Now, as a woman, let me clarify. This is not supposed to a 'not all men are bad, so stop talking about feminism.' No. That's not my goal. I talk about feminism a WHOLE LOT on my blog. A man being a butthole is not him being a man---it's him being a butthole. Being a butthole is gender-neutral.

I am also not saying give up your basic safety. Unfortunately, women DO have to be a LOT more vigilant than men in everday life because of how a LOT of men behave. But as I've said before, fighting fire with fire only makes more fire.

If we really wanna change the minds of men, saying all men deserve to be killed or that all men are scum isn't gonna change much. If anything, it's only going to further the radicalization we are seeing today. Because today, we have a bunch of men online and in these spaces telling men that the way to be men is to overpower and hate women. So if we have a bunch of women saying things like "kill all men" I personally don't think it's helping. You're only giving them a reason to believe their views are valid.

There is a balance to it. I'm not saying to coddle. I'm not saying push aside your safety. I'm not saying to not have boundaries, goals, or personal space.

Literally all I am saying is stop calling out sexism when you are actively performing in sexist behaviors.

If you wanna avoid men, if you don't want to be with a man, that is your perogative. That is your choice. But some ladies on this site have taken it way out of left field and are legit promoting the murder and automatic hatred of men just because someone was born a male.

And there's also other men on here saying the same thing. So now I'm wondering, "If you're calling yourself---a man---scum, what does that make you?"

Same way how I as a black person wouldn't want a white person hating themselves for being white, I as a woman don't want men to hate themselves for being men. I just want society to stop letting men be terrible people in the ways cultures allow them to be (of which men are mostly and largely in charge of).

You don't fight hate with hate. You can't hate goodness into a person. The goal should not be to perpetuate the same flames that are burning us. Because no one chooses to be a man the same way no one chooses to be a woman. No one controls what they're born when they're born.

It's so funny how when a woman online complains about sexual harassment, stalking, or even SA from men, men online will then dismiss her using this saying (excluding the most common one which is ‘not all men’), they’ll then jab with, "Well, it happens to men too. Don't exclude male victims."

Sir, no one said it DIDN'T. No one said it EXCLUDED them (or should). But here's why it's hard to take a man seriously when they DO bring up male victims in this specific context. Because a decent portion of them trying to use this as a counterpoint don't ACTUALLY care about male victims.

They just want to use male victims in order to make women feel stupid for talking about these problems. Because the only time male victims are generally brought up BY MEN is when someone is trying to stop a WOMAN from talking about sexual assault.

Whenever news stories about female predators molesting little boys or stories about crazy girlfriends stalking men come out into the public, the comments are filled with men saying stuff like this:

“Lol, he’s lucky, don’t see why he’s complaining”

“Where can I find a girl like her?”

“Lucky bastard, I can’t even get a girl to look at me.”

Or, if he was assaulted by a man, then it shifts to:

“He was probably gay”

“He looks like a girl, it’s his fault”

"Shouldn't have dropped the soap"

Etc.

Rather than acknowledging the very terrifying and dehumanizing experiences these men have faced at the hands of human-shaped predators, they either congratulate or blame the male victims for what traumatic experiences people have put them through. If these men ACTUALLY cared about male rape victims, they would not be saying these stupid/hurtful things towards the male victims who have experienced such horrible fates.

The world BARELY believes women whenever we speak up about the horrible things men often do to us. So if you guys hardly believe us when we speak about these topics, why on Earth would you ever believe MEN when they try to do so as well?

This is not to say that one side should be more believed than the other. But I am saying that two plus two equals four and not five. If you barely believe women, why would you believe men (especially when you think they’re FORTUNATE if a woman forces herself onto one)? Because if this is the stance you’re taking, you just don’t want people to talk about sexual assault rather than it is you caring about the gender of who was assaulted.

The lack of belief around sexual violence towards women harms men as well. 

Sure, it ABSOLUTELY sucks that we’re blamed if we do get assaulted by a man. “Oh well, what were you wearing?” But I bet it also sucks just as hard to be gaslighted into thinking you should be GRATEFUL that you were taken advantage of and that you’re ‘weird’ for thinking otherwise. “You’re lucky, I can’t get any women.”

We have got to stop blaming victims no matter what gender they are or what their situation is. And if you ACTUALLY care about male victims as much as you say you do, then become part of the solution—stop contributing. Unless you’re willing to do that—you don’t actually care about victims at all—you just want the topic of sexual assault to not be talked about due to your own twisted perspective of how consent works or how you think it should work.

Stop using a demographic of people who suffered in order to shut up a conversation you don't like.

Racism is to hate someone based on their race. So if you genuinely believe that only white people can be racist, you are automatically racist because you're hating on someone or slapping an identity onto them BECAUSE OF THEIR RACE.

Black people can be racist. Asians can be racist. Hispanics can be racist. Middle Eastern people can be racist, etc. Literally any group you can think of can be racist as well. So if you only think it's one group, you are racist for even believing that.

Fighting fire with fire never works---it literally only makes more fire. Being racist just because you've have bad experiences is like trying to fight fire by pouring gasoline on it.

I'm never going to stop preaching against Islam. And I'm never going to believe anything a Muslim tells me about their religion---regardless of how innocent or offensive they are. Why should I? They have Taqiyya. For those who don't know, Taqiyya basically allows Islamic followers to lie to people in order to make Islam seem better than what it is. Any religion that actively allows its people to lie is a people that automatically cannot be trusted.

Even if you say, "It's only lying to save someone," how can I know you're even still telling the truth? I can't trust what Muslims even say now because they lie about basic things in their own religion---that's how I know they're doing it now and they've been doing it for literal centuries.

That's why they're saying it's a feminist religion, even though their text says men can beat their wives. That's why they say, "Oh, I only look to the Quran," but they still pray five times a day---the instruction of which is only in the Hadiths. That's why they say, "Muhammad wasn't a pedo," even though Aisha herself confirmed it.

Allah literally calls himself the best of decievers. That sounds like Satan---and he's definitely done a very good job if he's decieved entire populations of people for 1400 years to keep worshiping a religion that consistently perpetuates abuse of its women and children---and that they have the right to kill anyone who steps outside of it. Sharia law is not a good thing at all if you genuinely value having control over your own life.

There is no radical Islam. Islam itself is just radical. Moderate Islam does not exist in their texts.