Ben had his 30 month review last week and the health visitor has sent copies of the paperwork over to us today. She was so pleased with him, his visuals, language and intelligence is at the same level as a four year old. He answered questions and done things she said toddlers his age don't usually get or do as fast as Ben did. It makes you feel like you're doing something right when things like this happen. In all honesty, I sometimes feel like a shit mum. I read statuses, articles, posts etc that say you should do this, do that, when raising your baby. Formula feeding is bad, breast is best. Give them a dummy, don't give them a dummy....all sorts of stuff that makes you think "wait, should I have done that differently?" And I'm fed up feeling like that. A prime example of this is what you should feed baby... Ben was on formula since he was born, because I was unconscious and he needed food pronto, and with him being so small and with all the complications, we were advised that it was best he stayed on formula so not to upset his teeny, delicate tummy, and so we could track what he was drinking too because he needed to put on weight. I'm sad I didn't BF, but you know what, he was fed and that's the main thing. He's lucky to be alive, we both are, so I need to stop feeling bad about not breast feeding, stop reading things about it that make me feel worse, and not doing all this other stuff. People say that when you don't BF, you don't have that "bond" with baby. You don't have that closeness, blah blah. Closeness, shmoseness! I think Ben and I have a pretty sweet bond, with or without being BF. Does not breastfeeding Ben make me a shit mum? (If your answer to this is "yes" then you can gtf!) I think we've done a damn good job with him, considering we were winging it the whole time. This whole parenting thing was new to us, but when you see how happy he is, how clever, well behaved (most of the time), caring, funny and easy going he is, it makes you just want to say "fuck it", we've done a good job. People can have their opinions on whatever they want, but at the end of the day as long as he's happy and healthy, nothing else matters. It was refreshing seeing a health visitor who wasn't a total moron for once. Someone who was chatty, helpful and didn't force opinions on you. She seemed happy with Ben's progress and I think it made us feel better too. Wouldn't change a single thing about this guy, or any of the time we've had with him.
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