Amita星慈

hope i will be with less pains but more abilities. BE TOUGHER BECCA

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to love without an attachment

love isn't trade

sharing love isn't losing love

I was asked many times about my idea of a healthy relationship or one that I long for,

here is my perspective :

1. to love each other with trust, freedom, respect  and faith. These three senses mentioned are what I think you and your partner should develop as a part of the invincible support for your relationship before you two really choose to start a genuine relationship. 

that's, a best friendship with trust, freedom,respect  and faith is a necessary keystone of a healthy relationship. 

 2. since you have your trust, freedom,respect, faith given to each other supporting your relationship, it's good you two can love together, be happy together, be better together, but work separately independently , then fuck together, and sleep together.  By the way, to keep the relationship relatively fresh, it's nice in my oopinion to sometimes sleep in separate rooms or separate blankets. You gotta know that "absence makes the heart grow fonder. "

3.spare enough time for your relationship every single day to chat and exchange ideas and feelings with your partner and show your affection to him/her. remember love is a daily thing and consistency does beat intensity!

4.be honest right away with your partner when you lose interest in your partner and want to end the relationship. then respect and accept this fact. one side never works.

5. don't be parents when you don't want or aren't ready. Be the best parents when you decide to be.

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this is it?

i think it is.

—Becca Liu

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"If one knows that everything is impermanent, one does not grasp.