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There are genuine accommodations that are just great for everyone to be doing. But there is a line that can be crossed into carer position.

It does need to be recognised that when they aren't trained, when they don't also get support, they can end up in burnout. That can be a genuine thing that leads to the loss of friendships.

It sucks to be the disabled friend. It sucks to constantly have to be aware of the support you need and how much your friend has to accommodate you just so you can hang out together.

It sucks trying to work out ways to be less of a burden to your friend. It sucks that no matter how much of a burden they say you are not, you know the toll it takes on people to care for you as often as you need it.

you should also never ever unplug the air conditioner and stick a flashlight in the vent that blows air to see if we're in there. it's very bad, that place should not be checked

and whatever you do, if you've already made the mistake of unplugging it, don't remove it from the window for cleaning if possible. and whether it's possible to remove the unit or not, don't carefully disassemble the front panel, document where the screws go and plastic bits go, and open up the vent more to be able to get into it easily

as black mold, i'm an expert on this. you should heed my warnings: now, if you've somehow made the mistake of doing all of the above, you should not use warm water and dish soap to CLEAN the inside of the vent thoroughly. DON'T ever use a bottle brush to get into the hard to reach places. and certainly don't rinse and dry the cleaned area before carefully putting it back together

there's nothing wrong with us, black mold. we don't cause or exacerbate breathing conditions like asthma or other illnesses. it's cool, we're cool

furthermore, if you're capable of removing the window unit, DONT take a hose with the same soapy water and wash the portion of the window unit that sits outside the window and is therefore weatherproofed.

whatever you do, don't allow the air conditioner to dry before plugging it back in and turning it on again

and if you have a central air conditioner, you will definitely never ever consult a manual or sources online to perform a similar cleaning procedure on the cooling unit outside.

— ⋆｡˚꩜ frank langdon mood board

Clancy moodboard

Requested by: me

Inspired by: this post by @regionalatbandito

⭒ “You keep saying you’re fine where you are, but you say it like you’re trying to convince yourself.”

⭒ “If this is what you want, then why do you look like you’re suffocating?”

⭒ “At some point, not choosing is still a choice.”

⭒ “You talk about loyalty like it’s an excuse to stay miserable.”

⭒ “You don’t get to resent everyone for a life you keep refusing to leave.”

⭒ “Say it out loud. Say you’re scared. Don’t dress it up as responsibility.”

⭒ “You keep waiting for permission that no one is ever going to give you.”

⭒ “If you stay, stop pretending you’re a victim. If you leave, stop pretending you’re a villain.”

⭒ “You act like wanting more automatically means you’re ungrateful.”

⭒ “You’re not trapped. You’re just afraid of who you’ll be if you walk away.”

⭒ “How long have you been calling this ‘temporary’?”

⭒ “You don’t owe your unhappiness your loyalty.”

⭒ “You keep saying it’s too late, but you never explain for what.”

⭒“You can’t keep blaming circumstances when you’re the one refusing to move.”

⭒ “What are you actually afraid of losing? this place, or the excuse?”

⭒ “You say you’re staying for everyone else, but you’re the one paying for it.”

⭒ “If this is the life you chose, why do you talk about it like it happened to you?”

⭒ “You keep waiting for it to fall apart so you don’t have to be the one who leaves.”

⭒ “You already know what you want. You’re just scared of the cost.”

⭒ “At what point does ‘being patient’ turn into ‘giving up’?”

⭒ “You keep calling it stability, but it looks a lot like fear.”

⭒ “How long are you planning to live a life you secretly hope ends on its own?”

⭒ “You can’t keep asking ‘what if’ while doing absolutely nothing about it.”

⭒ “You’re not scared of failing. You’re scared of finding out you could’ve done better.”

⭒ “Stop acting like leaving means erasing everything that came before it.”

MEN WHO NEVER LEARNED HOW TO BREAK

𒁍 “I don’t talk about it because nothing good ever came from me doing that.”

𒁍 “I learned early that pain was just something you carried quietly.”

𒁍 “No one asked if I was okay. They just assumed I could handle it.”

𒁍 “I don’t remember the last time I felt relief, just less pressure for a moment.”

𒁍 “I didn’t grow numb overnight. It happened slowly enough to feel normal.”

𒁍 “I don’t feel angry. I feel hollow.”

𒁍 “I don’t know how to explain how bad it gets without scaring people.”

𒁍 “I learned to lock things away so deep even I can’t reach them.”

𒁍 “I learned that needing anything was dangerous.”

𒁍 “I don’t know how to ask for help without hating myself for it.”

𒁍 “I don’t explode because that would mean someone would notice.”

𒁍 “I keep going because stopping feels worse.”

𒁍 “I don’t know who I am without the weight. I just know I can’t put it down.”

𒁍 “I don’t talk about the thoughts that show up when everything’s quiet.”

𒁍 “I learned to survive by turning myself off.”

𒁍 “I don’t trust happiness. It feels temporary and suspicious.”

𒁍 “I don’t cry because I don’t know where it would end.”

𒁍 “I learned that pain was normal and rest was weakness.”

𒁍 “I don’t know how much of me is left under all this control.”

𒁍 “I keep everything locked down because once it breaks, it breaks for real.”

𒁍 “I’ve been holding my breath so long I forgot what air feels like.”

𒁍 “I survived by becoming someone I don’t recognize.”

𒁍 “I don’t feel broken. I feel used up.”

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I made a linocut zine! About morays!