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The plan for the 17th, when the adult content ban comes in, is to protest.

To do that, we are making as much noise either side of the 17th as possible, and using the site as normal.

On the 17th, dead silence.

People are saying log off but what they really mean is don’t open the site or the app.

But, on the 17th make as much noise as possible on every other platform. Tweet about it and post on facebook and instagram and everywhere else.

What this does is causes a massive dip in ad revenue for one single day. That does not make staff think ‘oh everyone’s gone let’s shut down.’ What it actually makes them think is ‘oh shit people aren’t happy and if people don’t keep using our site we’re out of money and out of jobs.’

A boycott reminds a company that the users (consumers) have the power to make their site (business) worthless with one single coordinated decision.

If you want to join in, here’s what to do:

Do:

Close all open instances of the app and site on all your devices before the 17th

Make posts before and after the 17th on tumblr and other platforms, talking about why this ban is bad

Make posts on other sites during the 17th. Flood the official tumblr staff twitter and facebook with your anger and your opinion

Come back on the 18th and check in

Don’t:

Delete the app from your phone (this doesn’t affect their revenue and since it’s off the store at the moment it’ll be hard to get back)

Delete your account. I mean you can if you want to, but if you keep your account and don’t use it you’re saying to staff that there’s still time to save it. If you delete it’s hard work to come back.

Open the app or website (including specific blogs)

Make any posts (turn down/off your queue and make sure nothing is scheduled)

Go quiet elsewhere. Make it clear that this is just about tumblr, not a mass move away from all social media.

Remember: the execs don’t care about anything but money. Shutting down the site means there’s $0 further income from it. That’s their last possible course of action. If we make it clear we’re not happy, they’ll have to do something or we can do more and more until it becomes too expensive.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about what it is to be a sub, a fag, a boy, a slave, in relation to a Dom, Alpha, Sir, Master. What is Dominance/submission? How is it defined? I recently started mentoring a young sub, and this is something I need to help him understand.

The Axioms of Dominance/submission

There are some essential truisms at the heart of Dominance/submission, lets call them Axioms of Dominance/submission:

1. The pleasure of the Dom is paramount

The Doms pleasure is the subs purpose. The sub selflessly, and without judgement, serves the Doms pleasure in every aspect of the Doms life, sex, and well-being.

Related Posts: Features of Dominant Pleasure

2. The Dom is in control of his pleasure

Who will serve Him

When he gets served

Where he gets served

How he gets served

What equipment he uses to control the sub (i.e. bondage)

3. The subs purpose is the pleasure of the Dom

The subs focus is always on the Doms pleasure, never his own

The sub only feels pleasure through the pleasure of the Dom

The sub may endure physical and mental pain and discomfort giving pleasure to the Dom

The Equivelance Principle of Dominance/submission

Dominance/submission work as a single indivisible whole. Dominance can only exist with submission, and submission can only exist with Dominance. 

The Dom is Superior, the sub inferior

The Dom is controlling, the sub is controlled

The Dom is penetrating, the sub is penetrated

The Dom gives, the sub receives

The Dom whips, the sub takes the pain

Etc

In hierarchical terms the Dom is above the sub, but there is a fundamental Equivalence Principle of Dominance/submission. One that states that Dominance and submission are regarded equally in the indivisible whole. Both Dominance and submission are equally valued, respected, and commended.

There must be balance between the Dominance and submission. The level of Dominance must be balanced by the level of submission otherwise the D/s relationship will not work. And the sub should never feel shame in submission, even when humiliated and degraded by the Dom. The Dom respects, values, and commends the sub for what he is, as much as the sub respects, values, and commends the Dom.

Limits of Submission

Although the Dom is limitless in his pursuit of pleasure and his control of how he gets it (subject to the law and his personal situation). The sub often has limits to how he serves his Dom. These limits can be social and/or service based.

The sub is only human, he must prioritise his submission to the Dom alongside earning money, relationships outside D/s, spousal relationships, hobbies/sports, parents, etc. These are social limits. Many of these will take priority over service to the Dom at some time or another. The sub must work to be creative in freeing up time for serving his Dom.

The sub also has service limits. Things the sub will not do in the service of his Dom. A subs limits are based on fear, disgust, or self-preservation. The Dom has a right to push those limits in the pursuit of his pleasure, and the sub must accept that to be good. A good Dom will respect these limits, and gently and carefully push them, but never disregard them. And always seek feedback from his sub.

The Doms demands for pleasure must be balanced with the subs ability to service them. It is a balance that both Dom and sub must work to achieve.

Trust

Trust between the Dom and sub is possibly the most important component of Dominance/submission. The trust flows both ways and must always be balanced.

Both Dom and sub must be open and honest with each other in order to grow and improve, thus maximising the pleasure and satisfaction achieved. The Dom must give honest feedback to the sub regarding the subs service. The sub must be honest about how he is feeling with respect to his service of the Dom.

The sub must trust the Dom to respect his limits, and to push those limits appropriately, in order to help the sub develop in his submission.

The Dom must trust the sub to work for his pleasure, well-being, and happiness, and never harm the Dom in any way.

Both Dom and sub should agree to NEVER lie to tell half-truths to the other! The loss of trust inevitably will end a D/s relationship.

The Art of Submission: Tenets and Virtues

Submission is an art. One that a sub works throughout his life to master. The Dom helps train the sub by controlling the sub to gain maximum pleasure from himself. It is the duty of the sub to learn from the Dom, his sub mentors, and life in general in order to master the art of submission. As much as it is the duty of the Dom to master the art of Dominance. The sub must work to improve his skills and abilities, experiment and improve his techniques, allow his limits to be slowly pushed, learn to serve in new and creative ways, and become the eye candy that maximizes the Doms desire. The sub must judge the responses of the Dom and correct himself accordingly to constantly improve.

The art of submission has 3 tenets, each with virtues. These are the dimensions that the sub strives to perfect.

1. Submitting to Dominance

Submitting to Service - Obedience to the Dom, sexual service, domestic service, and all service in its various forms

Submitting to Pain - Submitting to the pain of the Dom in all its various forms.

Submitting to Humiliation - Submitting to humiliation and degradation inflicted by the Dom in all its various forms.

Submitting to Bondage - Submitting to physical restraint and controls, bondage in all its various forms.

2. Conditioning for Submission

Fitness - Keeping the body fit, keeping the body supple, and maintaining good mental health enables the sub to better serve the Dom, and look good doing it.

Grooming - Personal grooming, sexually attractive attire, and general style help the sub look his best for the Dom, maximizing the Doms pleasure.

Cleanliness - Personal hygiene and high cleanliness standards, both for play and in general, enable the sub to please the Dom without distraction or mishap.

3. Growth of Submission

Skill Development - Improving the skills, techniques, and abilities the sub needs to better serve the Dom (e.g. cock sucking, nipple play, etc).

Limit Extension - Extend and push limits of submission ever further to enable a more diverse service for the Dom.

Sub Spirit - By learning and understanding the philosophy of submission the sub grows his sub spirit such that he may better serve his Dom.

This post is further to The Art of Submission, and provides some additional thoughts on the first Axiom of Submission:

The Pleasure of the Dom is Paramount - The Doms pleasure is the subs purpose. The sub selflessly, and without judgement, serves the Doms pleasure in every aspect of the Doms life, sex, and well-being.

There are 3 posts on this topic, each providing guidance on submission:

Features of Dominant Pleasure

Forms of Dominant Pleasure

Types of Dominant Pleasure (future post)

This post relates to the forms of the Doms pleasure and the subs role in serving that pleasure. Being submissive does not equate to being passive. The sub serves in both active and passive ways. Just as the Dom can gain pleasure in active and passive ways.

The Forms of a Doms Pleasure 

The sub can serve the Dom based on 4 forms, a matrix of Dom and sub being either Active or Passive in the Doms pleasure. The image below illustrates this matrix. The sub must master each of these methods in order to become the perfect sub. 

1. Instructive

The Dom provides active instruction on how he is served, and the sub actively works to give pleasure to the Dom based on those instructions. For example, the Dom on the couch instructs a long slow blow job. For instructive pleasure the sub is required to be: 

Skilled - The sub must master and use the skills and techniques to provide pleasure to the Dom as instructed e.g. his cock sucking skills 

Enthusiastic - The sub must be enthusiastic both prior to, and during, his service to the Dom, no matter what the instruction. The sub is always eager to serve the Dom. 

Hard Working - The sub must work hard in the pleasure of the Dom, even when tired, uncomfortable, or in pain. 

2. Forceful

The Dom actively takes the pleasure that he wants, the sub is passive in how the sub is used and abused by the Dom. For example, skull fucking. In forceful pleasure the sub is required to be: 

Tough - The sub must be tough, and work to be tougher, in order to take any use and abuse the Dom gives.

Flexible and communicative in limits - The sub must attempt to go beyond his limits when forced by the Dom, and be communicative with the Dom when his limits are pushed too far. 

Skilled - In some cases and/or if the sub is highly skilled, the sub can actively use his skills to enhance the Doms experience while the Dom forcibly takes his pleasure. For example using the tongue to massage the Doms cock while being skull fucked. 

3. Anticipatory

The Dom makes no instruction, the sub takes the initiative to provide the Dom with pleasure. In anticipatory pleasure the sub is required to be: 

Creative - The sub should be imaginative, resourceful, and ingenious when taking the initiative to pleasure the Dom.

Cautiously Proactive - Since the Dom gave no instruction for this form of pleasure the sub should be cautious, but proactive, about giving it to the Dom. The sub should be sure the Dom will appreciate his initiative prior to embarking on this form of pleasure.

Yielding - Even though the idea and the initiative came from the sub, he must be ready to relinquish control to the Dom. The Dom may punish the sub for being active in his pleasure, and yet thank him for it.

4. Intrinsic

The Dom gives no instruction. The sub does not attempt to anticipate the Doms needs, but maintains his submission in every day life. The Dom gets pleasure from seeing the subs inner nature, his natural submission. For intrinsic pleasure the sub is required to be: 

Natural - The sub must be natural in his submission, submitting to Dominant men in numerous small ways throughout the daily life.

Constant - The sub is constant in his submission. He does not turn it on for sex, then off. The sub is constantly submissive.

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Total Dominance Extended…. I’m pretty sure this dude is a pornstar or at the very least a professional amateur. if anyone finds out his name. Let me know