Honestly

idk thinking about how sometimes you have to show up for people you aren't that close to, because sometimes you're just the person who's there. sometimes you invite a new friend to a party and end up having to sit with them through a panic attack. sometimes you run into an acquaintance on their worst day and they need to talk about what happened. sometimes someone is crying in a stairwell and you're the only one around to ask if they're okay. and none of this is "trauma dumping" or whatever the fuck it's just being there for people because you're the one in the room with them.

the craziest thing about being alive is that you have to live with other people’s interpretations of you

love passes thru me at all times like an electric current

”getting thicker skin” is great in theory but I think for some people “get better at handling your thin skin” is gonna be way more helpful advice. I have strong emotional reactions to criticism and they might never go away, but i can continue to try and handle each situation maturely and that’s the important part. Sometimes irrational feelings are chronic and living with them is better than trying to beat yourself up into not having them.

my life really did improve when i decided to just constantly, casually compliment my friends and family. i cannot recommend it more. it makes everything better. you look incredible in that shirt, you're one of the funniest people i know, you're wearing the hell out of that dress, you're so sexy wtf, you're so talented, i love talking to you, you're so fun to be around, you're so kind, that haircut is amazing, i love you, i love you, i love you

some of yall will be like “i dont care about your dreams, i dont care about your spotify wrapped, i dont want to hear about your interests, dont you dare talk to me about your trauma,” and its like. what do you even have friends for. bc it sounds to me like you dont give a shit about anything that makes them a person. what do you talk about.

a few people have expressed some resistance to the “trauma” part of this post and like. im Obviously not talking about trauma dumping in inappropriate situations. if youre friends with someone — real friends, not acquaintances — and their past experiences come up and you dont want to hear it, not bc its triggering to you or anything but bc you just dont give a shit, then youre a bad friend. you can talk about trauma dumping and emotional labor till the cows come home but theres no amount of woke verbiage that will make it okay lmao

Dude I love your blog. I'm a big fan of the cries for help