sometimes emotions are houseguests.
some people are adept at entertaining not just one but multiple emotions at once to varying degrees.
sometimes you never learned how to host so your approach is just “stay the fuck out of my house” to all emotions.
this approach is apparently wrong bc you keep good emotions out too. but also if you keep the bad emotions out too long, they break into your house at 3am screaming and setting things on fire until you acknowledge them.
apparently what you’re supposed to do is let them come over every so often, even if cleaning up sucks and it’s awkward. apparently that’s good practice and the more you do it, the easier it is to have them over.
sometimes you resist having them over bc you don’t want to entertain them and you’ve got other shit to do. but apparently it’s an option to tell them “I’m gonna do some chores but you can hang out here for a bit.” and if they’re chill and you’re chill, it’s a start.
maybe begin with one at a time. no sleepovers. work your way up to a small group dinner.
but you gotta let them in first.
