Medical updates
My dad is going to have his first hip replacement in august and the second in September.
My sister gets her spine surgery at the end of this month
My brother is doing overall very well being home and not talking to the people who pulled him down. My mother and I have also acknowledged that some of his rigidity is likely an autistic, but his ADHD, anxiety and depression were much more prevalent so they were masking it. But with his current meds, and less caffeine he’s much more pleasant. He still might fail summer school, but it might be good for him to be the older kid in classes.
Sister 2 tried Ritalin, and the tablets were fine and she and we could tell they were helping her think, but they switched manufacturers for her second fill and after a couple weeks she told mom it was not working. Which we had also noticed. She was having massive meltdowns after the meds would wear off everyday.
My brother and his wife are moving in like a week
I’m still mad at my sister about how she reacted and treated my mom when my brother went to the hospital. She still thinks that she did not make it about her. I had told her that I was not going to talk to her and she continued to send me things on instagram and ask me direct questions in the family chats. I broke my silence last night and explained that I love her, I’m upset with how she reacted to me telling her I was upset, but I know that we will be seeing each other and so I will be cordial. She does not think that she made it about herself, and that I personally attacked her when I said that she should have done more to help. I had said that she could have done more, and referenced specifically what she had said earlier to all the siblings, she had been giving mom names of places to go. I suggested that she should have called to see if they were accepting new patients, or took my brother’s insurance. Apparently that’s accusing her of doing nothing.
And I do think that she did nothing. Giving mom a list of places that you can find on google is not a helpful thing. Coming over and talking to mom about what brother needs or taking out the littlest ones so mom had actual time to focus, would have helped. Or when brother went to the hospital, coming over and helping or checking in with me individually, instead of a group text with other brother once and absolutely no follow up.
Other siblings came over and helped. One drove around that night and got supplies for him to take to in-patient. One came over and helped more with the kids.
Obviously I’m actually still really hurt that she did what felt like nothing. And then when I told her so, she made it seem like all she ever did was help and she raised us all. As I’ve mentioned before, she was 9 when I was born and very likely did help a lot, but she also chose to, the next two siblings picked sports and things. And you know that taking care of kids is her calling because she literally was a nanny right out of college (BA in early education) and then worked with kids here. And now is on her 3 or 4th nanny job for babies in the last 2 years.
I started a new migraine med. It’s once every 3 months and is an infusion











