i get this question a lot. the simple answer is that love is a choice. there will be days there’s no passion, there will be days where all you want to do is be alone or do your own thing. days where you can’t stand him or you fight.

you’re out of the infatuation phase. now, love is a choice. not senseless chemicals. if you wanted a bright, meaningless connection… if that’s what you need right now, then do what you need to. but know that walking away is like leaving the warmth of a smoldering fire and trying to light a match with frozen fingers.

bright connections flare and ebb constantly.  making the choice to stay, to choose him… that’s what love is about. the kind of thing that you can make a life out of.

it’s different if you’re not happy. follow your own happiness. but if you’re good together, if he loves you and you love him… you’re got it made. in the end only you can make the decision based on how fulfilled you feel.

if i’m going to be honest, i’m at the point in my own relationship where i actively make that choice every single day. i’ve moved far past that infatuation stage.