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Believe it or not, not everyone who’s asking you to tag something is doing it because that thing makes them uncomfortable or they don’t like it! Here are some perfectly reasonable things people would find triggering

Rape, abuse, or sexual assault

Violence

Believe it or not, not everyone who’s asking you to tag something is doing it because that thing makes them uncomfortable or they don’t like it! Here are some perfectly reasonable things people would find triggering

Rape, abuse, or sexual assault

Violence

Racial violence/any other violence rooted in bigotry or hate

Drowning

Fire

Gore

Self harm or suicide

Eating disorders

War

Torture

Other examples that may not be related to PTSD but could still be considered triggers may include

gifs

Flashing lights

Anything that else could trigger migraines or seizures

"I want to sit here and bask in my privilege as, probably, a white woman, and benefit off the thousands of other feminists and their success in gaining more rights for me while simultaneously doing nothing to further eliminate oppression"

Or

"I’m ignorant and don’t actually know what feminism is. I don’t know what oppression is or even misogyny. I’m probably 12 and I’m probably myself perpetuating girl on girl misogyny."

and

Poisoning the Well, another Strawman Argument, Personal Attack, and still more Ad Hominim

But if a survivor is not only okay with jokes but uses them as a coping mechanism, you are in no position to tell them how to deal with their trauma.

You’d think feminists would be against survivor policing. Hell, I think telling rape survivors how to deal with their trauma is wrong BECAUSE I’m a feminist. 

Yet I’m seeing all of these feminists, some who may not even BE survivors, attacking and bullying women because they don’t deal with their experience the way they think they should. 

Thanks.

Oh sweetie, don’t thank me. Honestly, I’m not trying to convert you or anything. I’m just telling it like it is. There’s not really an anti-feminism movement whereas people sharing their criticism about today’s activism. Don’t let my posts make you feel bad for being a feminist. If you’re not the people I argue about, my frustration isn’t towards you. But thank you for the sweet message. 

Ihatecispeoplebecause’s Faq (via smallstrawhat)

Have u ever breathed in and out? Contributing to transphobia

(via fuck-social-justice-blogs)

Sigh…yeah, but the first and third ones do apply to me, or at least they have in the past. I'll admit, the first one still confuses me a bit, And the third-to-last one could probably apply too.

(via goldenphoenixgirl)

Not sure if I’ve reblogged this before but it always bears repeating.

(via thebicker)

Except the too is necessary when people continously treat rape like a fucking gendered issue. This is like saying that reminding people women can be gay and brutalized too takes away from gay men’s safe spaces. Fuck off with this “you’re just using male victims!!!!” bullshit just because I had the audacity to criticize you ignoring victims.

I mean, out of basic human compassion and kindness, you should care about other people’s feelings, and have awareness of the injustices that may be happening, while doing what you can to help the affected.

But if you don’t want to rally, to pontificate, to reblog sj stuff, you don’t have to, it’s ok, your choice should be respected. To be forced, guilted, or pressured into joining a movement shouldn’t ever happen, and kinda defeats the purpose of being a voluntary ally that wants change.

Expect people to respect causes that promote social equality and justice, but never think less of someone that chooses not to be vocal about their support.

However, I’m still pretty new to the men’s rights thing and I’ve heard that there were problems with intersectionality and being mostly focused on white middle class American men. This, interestingly enough, is a huge problem with feminism and a big reason why I’m very critical.

There are also cases of MRAs being extremely dismissive towards female victims of abuse. Paul Elam, the founder of A Voice For Men, has allegedly said quite a few things that sound very much like rape apologism. I don’t know a whole lot on the issue, but apparently he once said that if he were ever on a jury for a man accused of raping a women, he would vote “not guilty” whether he believed the man was truly innocent or not. His rational being that too many men have had their lives destroyed by false rape convictions. I have also head that Elam has several occasions advocated violence against women who he believes were antagonizing their partners.

There also seems to be a tendency for MRAs to enforce the same gender norms that they should be fighting against. Using homophobic slurs and telling people to “man up” for failing to be masculine enough seem to be common.

Again, I don’t think that this applies to all MRAs. I have come into contact with a a few who are very reasonable and in no way advocate violence or misogyny. I think it is a flawed movement that is in need of heavy criticism, but it’s unfairly portrayed as a terrorist group (when in reality MRAs are not violent enough to be terrorists and not organized enough to be a group).

There’s a really blatant double standard, since pretty much every problematic thing that MRAs have done, feminists have done as well. And yet feminism is seen as infallible while the MRM is demonized.

I think the worst thing about how MRAs are demonized is that it essentially silences any discussion about issues like male abuse/rape and male genital mutilation. I have seen people, when presented with every possible reason why circumcision is wrong, dismiss the issue because “well, MRAs are against circumcision, and they’re always wrong.”

Ooooh! Let’s take it from psych major here and not AN ACTUAL SEXUAL VIOLENCE SURVIVOR!!!

Ahhhhh yes! Great blog and y’all seriously need to follow her. Unlike the majority of feminists and anti-feminists, she’s able to be critical of both sides while addressing the pros and cons of both. She also doesn’t resort to childish insults like a lot of people do.