infinite diversity in infinite combinations ᯓ✧

& then you can also consider how nonbinary people are less likely to have gotten surgeries than binary people (from here)

Access to gender-affirming care (GAC) varied across gender identity when comparing trans men to AFAB nonbinary individuals. For example, both groups highly desired top surgery; however, trans men were significantly more likely to have already undergone the procedure (32%) compared to AFAB nonbinary individuals (10%). Both groups also showed interest in hysterectomies, though access again differed, as 10% of trans men had undergone a hysterectomy, while only 2% of AFAB nonbinary individuals had. Overall, this indicates that while transgender men and AFAB nonbinary individuals often seek similar forms of care, nonbinary individuals experience a larger gap between desiring a procedure and receiving it, possibly due to systemic barriers or variations in how medical providers approach nonbinary transition-related care. When comparing across gender, some similarities exist between transgender women and AMAB nonbinary individuals in their desires for certain procedures. For instance, both groups wanted laser hair removal at high prevalences (54% of trans women and 58% of AMAB nonbinary individuals). However, transgender women were far more likely to have undergone the procedure (40%) compared to AMAB nonbinary individuals (15%), suggesting a greater gap between desire and access.

& not only that but it is harder to get surgeries that don't seek to create peritypical cis-typical genitalia, like penis-preserving vaginoplasty or nulloplasty. this is why it is so insidious that other trans people, who are FULLY capable of treating dysphoria as genuinely life-threatening when it comes to binary dysphoria, act like nonbinary people aren't seriously affected by dysphoria and especially when they take this to the point of talking about how we don't have the Trve Transsexual Material Positionality tied to the need for hormones and surgery and that's why genderqueer advocacy is to blame for transphobic legal attacks on the community.

like. okay so we all agree that dysphoria can kill people and cause immense suffering and this should be treated as an emergency. UNTIIIILLLLL its a nonbinary/genderqueer person and then its all "well just suck it up and get over it? what do you expect." hmmm i wonder why it might be that nonbinary people has such terrible mental health

it did not. it is public knowledge the slave trade worked like this

Asexual people getting to be open and talk about not wanting sex and never having sex is important in a world that tries constantly to sell sex to us as an inevitable activity

Disabled people fighting for the right to marry is important in a world that holds life-saving benefits hostage and prevents one from marrying

Women fighting for the right to divorce or to never marry is important in a world that pushes women into a subordinate role of "wife"

Ex-Religious people fighting for the right to leave a religion or not be forced to convert to a religion is important in a world that subjects everyone to predatory missionary work

Religious people fighting for the right to practice their religion and do so openly is important in a world that prioritized religions over one another--often Christianity but not always

And you could substitute many more things into this. Young people fight to not be infantilized by authority, but they also in some areas fight to not be adultified. Some people have to fight so hard for a variety of reasons to be able to grow out their hair. Some people have to fight so hard to be able to cut it. Some fight to be allowed to wear coverings, some fight to be allowed to wear nothing. Some fight to be left alone, some fight to get the care they need. Some fight to be able to leave, some fight to be able to stay.

None of these comparable fights are opposed to one another, because the fight isn't about the specific thing, it is all about the same thing: autonomy.

Someone's fight to wear a dress is someone's fight to wear pants is someone's fight to live alone is someone's fight to live with someone is someone's fight to be left alone by medical institutions is someone's fight to be able to medically alter their body.

It is the same fight. People who want the opposite for themselves that I want for me are my siblings. We want the exact same thing: the choice to be who we want, how we want, on our terms.

from this article which seemed to suck the least (unsure if this is the name she actually uses or a deadname; if it is i will remove it from this post):

The encounter took place in 2025 after the University of Central Florida police responded to a report involving a possible vehicle theft. Although Jarrett Preston Vick, who reportedly uses she/her pronouns, was not accused of stealing a vehicle, she became involved in the police interaction and grew visibly distressed after officers referred to her using male pronouns. In the footage, shared by Inside The Blue TV on YouTube, Vick repeatedly asked officers to address her correctly, saying, “She! She! Just say the right pronoun.” “Josh, can you please just tell them to use the right pronouns? Please. You know, it’s causing me a lot of distress.” Josh, identified as a university employee who briefly appeared in the clip, attempted to calm the situation as the exchange continued. At another point, Vick shouted, “Why do you let those kids get away with this? They are not supposed to be here.” One responding officer warned that if Jarrett did not lower her voice, she could be placed in handcuffs and taken for evaluation under Florida’s Baker Act. The confrontation continued to escalate before officers ultimately detained and handcuffed Vick. Notably, her arrest records list her as male. According to court records, the confrontation resulted in her being charged with battery on a law enforcement officer, a third-degree felony, along with misdemeanor counts of resisting an officer without violence and disorderly conduct. She formally pleaded not guilty to all charges on March 27, 2025. Bodycam shows UCF student repeatedly screaming “Don’t say him! Say she!” during a stolen vehicle investigation—then getting pepper-sprayed and arrested.

trans people's distress is always treated as a combination of male violence and female hysteria. this is patriarchal state violence in action. people fixate on the trans person's "unreasonable" distress and not that the officer was actively continuing to fuck with her until she lashed out.

More recently Sophie Lewis, Judith Butler, Julia Serano, Mikki Kendall, Kristen Ghodsee, Juno Mac and Molly Smith, Emi Koyama

It's even worth reading some of the "bad feminists" to see how their influence shaped modern feminism and discourse around feminism today. Dworkin's influence on modern feminism was largely bad and pushed the movement politically right, but you can't fully appreciate that and understand the context unless you actually read some of her work.

Unimaginable, sir: my blood curdles

En pensant qu’on y peut changer une virgule.

From the thought of editing a single comma out.

Some women are expected to be strong at times when they can't. Her feminism would involve reassuring her that it's okay to not be strong.

Some neurodivergent people are raised to believe that they're too stupid to ever amount to anything. Their disability activism would involve reassuring them that they're capable.

Some neurodivergent people are raised to believe that they're smart and gifted, and are expected to live up to impossible standards. Their disability activism would involve allowing them to fail, make mistakes, be stupid, etc.

Some children are constantly reminded "you're the child, I'm the adult" in order to deny their autonomy. Their youth rights activism would involve treating them like an adult at times when they feel ready for it.

Some children are treated like adults in order to justify increased expectations or to downplay abuse against them. Their youth rights activism would involve allowing them to be a child.