by the stars

reminder to self: you can be sad about the change before accepting the change

to peace & better days

you know what, "because i'm in pain" is a good enough reason as any. why do you want to take meds? in pain. why do you wanna cancel? in pain. why didn't you want to talk? in pain. yeah don't be a jerk to everyone you meet and expect them to welcome that. but why were you being a jerk? in pain. it's a reasonable explanation. being in pain should be enough of an explanation. it should be considered an immediate problem that we try to fix as soon as possible instead of expecting the vast majority of people alive to just get on with it.

People are unfazed if you hate women but if you dislike dogs they assume you're a bad person

there is something within me that i would like removed

healed enough to close the door, but human enough to still look at it sometimes

if there is anything that life has taught me it's that a big heart needs big boundaries

you have to learn to interrupt automatic negative thoughts. it won’t feel natural, but it’s important to be deliberate in changing bad thoughts into compassionate, self-healing ones in order to feel better and happier in the long term.

I promise you things will get so much better when you start processing people’s behavior as information rather than a verdict on your self-worth. If someone doesn’t text back, suddenly pulls away, whatever it may be, the solution isn’t to put on a tap dance for them and try to regain their approval. It’s not to crash out on them and try to force them to react a certain way. It’s just to take a step back, take a deep breath, and assess what this tells you. What’s this saying about them? What’s this saying about you??