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How To Deal With A Narcissist | Psych2Go

Identify the type of narcissist you are dealing with. Researchers categorize narcissists into two categories. Grandiose narcissist and vulnerable. Grandiose narcissists have high self esteem, believing they are better than everyone else. Vulnerable narcissists have low self esteem that they are compensating for. To deal effectively with a narcissist, figure out their back story, create a healthy boundary, recognize toxic behaviours and abusive signs. 

this friend i speak did this exact shit. she was cheating (which i knew about but it was at a time when i was still struggling with the issue of what does one do in a situation like that (do i tell on them or do i keep their secret)) and got caught cheating by her man. her job required that she travel a lot (and i mean a hell of a lot and around the world) so she had a built in excuse to be away and used it to meet with this other dude. in fact thinking about it, she has jumpoff in a few cities around the states where she goes often for work. cool when you’re single but fucked up if you’re with someone who thinks you’re being faithful. so anyway she got caught, her man understandably upset went off on her and left her. she claims it was ugly but i don’t know how it can be when you’re completely in the wrong. you were grown enough to do dirt now be grown enough to deal with the consequences. she got all in her feelings, went on twitter talking “niggas think they own you fucking pigs” and shit. mind you the backstory is that she popped all this off. he had EVERY FUCKING REASON to expect faithfulness from his girlfriend with whom he was in an agreed upon committed relationship so fuck off with the “she didn’t owe him anything” bullshit. so she’s popping off on twitter calling him a “fuck boy” and etc and all these black women (and some non-black too which made it extra fucked up) join in the chorus. “yea fuck them, they don’t deserve us” “i see no lies” “we need to stop dating black men” “trust no niggas” and shit. MIND YOU SHE’S THE CHEATER!!! HE’S COMPLETELY IN THE RIGHT!! however when you’re desperate for opportunities to shit on someone or a group, you’re always ready to jump in no matter what…

now to the black women who do this shit, fuck you. you’re pieces of ripe shit. to the black women who fall for this shit, wake the fuck up. not everyone who screams they are a victim are actually victims. if you feel the need to buy every anti-black male sob story you hear, you have some internalized racism issues to deal with. you’ve got some misandry in your veins and just like i tell black men to handle their fucking misogyny, handle your fucking misandry. 

Just because a man won’t take you yelling at him like he’s a child in public doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man won’t stand for you slapping him because you didn’t like what he said doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man won’t stand for you telling him he can’t hang with his friends any more because you don’t like them doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man won’t stand for you telling him he can’t talk or hang with his female friends he’s known for years before you came along doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man knows that being forced to spend every free moment with you isn’t what a healthy relationship looks like doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man won’t spend every dime on you doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man won’t bend because he knows when you’re using tears to manipulate him into doing what you want doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man won’t kowtow to your insecurities and give you the password to his phone so you can read all his shit doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man stops fucking with you cause you’re insecure as fuck and thinks he’s always cheating doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man won’t let you ruin his life with your constant making mountains out of molehills self doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man doesn’t want to deal with your backbiting and gossiping on your friends habits doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man won’t put up with your constant flirting with other men doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man knows that your “sex as a weapon” routine is controlling and abusive and bounces on your ass doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit’ 

Just because a man won’t stop watching sports just because you don’t like it doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man won’t stand for you disrespecting his family doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man thinks for himself and doesn’t feel like he has to always agree with you cause you two are fucking doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man doesn’t want to deal with your overly materialistic self doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man leaved you because he realizes that you’re fake deep doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man leaved you after catching cheating and doesn’t buy any of your excuses doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man stops messing with your manipulative ass doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man gets sick and tired of you engaging in colorism and leaves doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

Just because a man leaved you cause you refuse to learn and exhibit basic manners and decorum doesn’t mean “niggas aint shit”

need i go on?

black women keep backing abusive, ignorant black women when they’re attacking black men who won’t put up with their fuckery and then y'all get mad when some say “you know what? fuck black women. i’m out.”

i love black women but every once in a while after i’ve dealt with some black women so ignorant, so hypocritical, so fucked up that i have that thought myself. i just happen to be experienced enough to know that the majority of women are fucked up so the key is finding the healthy mature ones. 

on tumblr when you call men out on their bullshit, it’s

and

but call out women on their bullshit and it’s…

and

and my personal favorite

black tumblr in many ways and on many topics is totally gutless and the fuckery of black women is one of them. no guts. mind you i expect black women to be hypocrites if it serves a selfish purpose because that’s what humans do but it’s especially fucked up when dudes do it. like have some gotdamn self respect man and stop excusing shit you know black women would NEVER excuse us doing. it does you no good as a fucking man to be up someone’s ass who doesn’t give a fuck about you man.  

i literally had a black woman (a haitian black woman who only proved that i made a great call not fucking with haitian women anymore) on here tell me that the only reason i was making a stink about how bad it is for women to hit men (you know domestic violence) was because i got rejected at a club and wasn’t having enough sex. lmao. can you imagine for a second if i said to a woman the only reason why they had a problem with the images and ideas of men hitting women was because they haven’t had a good dick yet? it would be fucking flames here but hyprocrisy reigns on this bitch and if this is representative of what’s happening offline too (and i believe it is) these “i don’t date black women” dudes maybe have just reasons for their animosity beyond just the easy “they’re just ignorant” or “they’re just coons.” 

the key is to not let all the trashy black women you come across as a guy poison you so much that you think all black women are trash. all black women are NOT trash. there are definitely some but it’s not all black women. now i realize that i’m doing something by even thinking that way that most black women do NOT for black men (thus making THEM trash). black women will come across 10 trash black men and decide that all 10 million black men are trash. trash actions by a trash person. i’m not doing that. i’m not letting the bad bunches sour me on the entire orchid but there are days when it’s harder than others however if it were easy, everyone would do it. 

social media will make you hate people though. without a doubt. social media and the internet will straight up make you hate humanity hence why i’m not on here often. i put shit in my queue and then i leave haha. i go out because it is more likely that i’ll run into some quality black women offline than online. a lot of trash black women on tumblr for example. so yea when i throw out all the supportive posts for black women, it’s not meant for trashy black women. it’s not meant for black women who are cheating on their s.o., physically abusing their s.o., verbally abusing their s.o., playing men for their money, leading men on, unable to handle any criticism, hypocrites, two faced, over-reactors, self involved, sleep, “all lives matter” believing, “if it ain’t white it’s not white” white men dating, abusing their children, sexually assaulting men, sexually assaulting women, belittling men’s pain/issues and etc. i’m not supporting them at all.

to be hyper clear, all these black women/women supporting posts right here are NOT for shitty black women:

http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/145035484673/alwaysbewoke-in-the-light-of-what-black-women http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/158005110509/alwaysbewoke-via-ig-ivoryjinelle-like-my http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157668870842/alwaysbewoke-alwaysbewoke-un-adult http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/156587739813/alwaysbewoke-misogynoir-for-real-man-youre http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157710489011/alwaysbewoke-it-is-obvious-that-there-are-non http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157636913653 http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/146511451503/alwaysbewoke-neither-your-presence-your http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157715376490/alwaysbewoke-jlsmarts-alwaysbewoke http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157710982696/alwaysbewoke-sip-me-slooowly-troubleb http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157636545677/alwaysbewoke-yorubaintraining-alwaysbewoke http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157530635462/alwaysbewoke-for-fucking-real http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157704887429/says-this-tired-of-the-bullshit-black-man http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157160854382/alwaysbewoke-macoronnie-i-know-its-kinda http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/156902906226/hustleinatrap-women-empowering-women-you-go http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157157219468/alwaysbewoke-boop-boop-a-doop1 http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157711497240/do-you-understand-brothas-no-consent-no http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/156514337532/alwaysbewoke-says-this-black-man-2016fave http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/156457968641/alwaysbewoke-decoon-yourself http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/156005501017/alwaysbewoke-barnwezzy-alwaysbewoke-are-you http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/155915991133/a-trick-that-cooning-black-men-always-fall-for http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157546949183/no-black-man-who-spends-any-time-shitting-on-black http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157538674672 http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157197590412/racism-sexism-xenophobia-muslimban-feminism http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157128170306/judainparis-pimpinaintsimple http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157738624975 http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/158409820585/lifeandshtuff-6killshit-lmao-bruh-i-need http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/158358243247/alwaysbewoke-black-women-are-magic-and http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/158333726537 http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/158314807653/alwaysbewoke-dontsettleforunequalrelationships http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/158311537563/alwaysbewoke-you-got-brothas-out-here-who-will http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/158315513334/alwaysbewoke-so-by-now-we-all-know-that-elexus http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/158294468741/90zdevil-alwaysbewoke-be-on-the-look-out-for http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/158279112128/alwaysbewoke-gemini-23-alwaysbewoke http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/158251321317 http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/158201502298/if-you-have-never-seen-a-black-woman-that-you-find http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/158151756778/women-i-like-vs-women-who-like-me http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/158052396541 http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/151340538344/the-conversation-id-like-to-have-with http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/151366815088/how-women-of-color-are-driving-entrepreneurship http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/151405279621/emotional-justice-what-black-women-want-and-need http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/152704759650/the-wage-gap-a-primer http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/158092168125/blackandbrowngifs-classic-so-the-way-she http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/153196062253/our-diversity-isnt-looking-very-diverse http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/153393091147/why-black-women-struggle-more-with-domestic http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/154315316038/the-saddest-fact-ive-learned-is-nobody-matters http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/145126651569/alwaysbewoke-rant http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157950085298/alwaysbewoke-alwaysbewoke-blackgirlsrpretty2 http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/149770003655/its-funny-to-me-that-all-the-i-need-to-have-this http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157832908976/when-im-around-my-friends-and-a-black-guy-is http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157797034295 http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157749287854/alwaysbewoke-badgyal-k-a-lot-of-ya-are-like http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157719131600/alwaysbewoke-whoop-that-ass http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/151759778052/7-of-the-most-unrecognized-women-in-black-history http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/158907880912/colormehersheykisses-alwaysbewoke-behold-the http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157988594532/alwaysbewoke-the-fuck-is-wrong-with-you http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/153762165726/be-careful-what-ya-wish-for-becky http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/153610226727/alwaysbewoke-when-i-was-young-i-thought-the-most http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/153561032412/dating-as-a-dark-skin-black-woman http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/153522185259/alwaysbewoke-via-ig-ivoryjinelle-like-my http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/153485980027/alwaysbewoke-alwaysbewoke-respectwomen http://www.alwaysbewoke.com/post/157128170306/judainparis-pimpinaintsimple