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Male loneliness this, male loneliness that. Have they tried lobotomies? Tranquilizers? Being fingered by medical professionals? Tearing the yellow wallpaper off the walls of the attic room where your husband keeps you locked up?

Read this - oh my goodness, this girl was wonderful.

Where can I read this in full?

It’s from  Real American Girls Tell Their Own Stories, and that particular section is by Martha Carey Thomas who grew up to be a suffragist, linguist and renowned educator, as well as a badass lesbian.

can everyone do me a favor and tell me your favorite thing to put on toast in the tags

Lindsay Graham's last words were "Mitch McConnell survives" but unbeknownst to him, McConnell had already died six to eight weeks before.

Last book club helped me with the Allan Tierney situation and Barney, which I spent a dozen rereads always feeling uncomfortable with. I view it less as a patriarchal dictate about what she can/can't do (really, when has Barney forced Valancy to do/not do something against her own desires?) and more of human emotion. And in an age where media is so often portrays leading men in m/f relationships as either a) worrying, abusively possessive and framing him as the hero love interest or b) asking for permission and consent and leaving everything up to the woman, it's a breath of air to go back to something in the middle. Something very human. Barney isn't against Valancy being painted out of a sense of wanting to deny her something that would boost her self-esteem (he even told her about it so she might realize how beautiful she's become!), but because he doesn't want another man to be able to ogle and possess her and show her off to his friends. He's lived in that kind of world, so he likely has first-hand experience with those kind of conversations, and it makes sense that it would make him upset to know that was happening with his (platonic) wife, who tragically passed far too young as well, while he had nothing but memories of her.

#I think it's the line 'belonging to another man' that makes Barney's position sound harsher than it is#as OP says‚ he's very likely seen how other portraits of women have been owned and ogled#and it's not pretty#furthermore‚ he's between a rock and a hard place here in regard to his secrets#does he come clean and pay for a painting that will only haunt him after Valancy dies#or does he try to play off these complex emotions as simple jealousy?#(simple jealously that I think Valancy actually enjoys#from not being desired her whole life to being desired to the point of not wanting to share even a painting of her with someone else#that's a pretty big -- and complimentary!!! -- difference)#it would have been interesting to see them work out a compromise if Valancy *had* wanted to be painted#because despite what he's saying here#I doubt Barney would have denied her the opportunity#it's important to note that he doesn't admit to not 'allowing' her to be painted until she says she doesn't want to be#who knows what he actually told Allan Tierney? --@deemoyza

can't believe the only options are 30 minutes early or 10 minutes late. if only there were some other way. but what can you do

sorry america but you’ve been really mean. and I don’t want to go to your birthday party in two days

in retrospect this moment was absolutely pivotal to my butch awakening but it was also just a lesbian power move