like it does matter. it does in fact matter. you can feel it when you're the only nonwhite person in a room and it is fucking weird. you can fucking feel in your body how uncomfortable and strange it is to only have white people in a space. it's deeply unsettling and deeply unenjoyable for everyone but the white people.
white people get the privilege of never having to think about how society will treat them for their race, white people get to always see people just like them. white people are always the default model in advertisements, the person on a book cover, the actor on tv. when you apply this to queer spaces you realize that fuck, okay, we only have models of what white queerness looks like. we only have a roomful of white queer people, we're not ever considering what it looks like to be black and trans, to be middle eastern and lesbian, to be south asian and gay, to be indigenous and intersex, to be hispanic and nonbinary. you're just white. and when you're white you don't even have to say that you are, when you're white you know you are the default and that most other people you meet in a queer space will probably be just like you. we have fucking nothing. we have a default, and even when we slightly stray from the default, we stay as close as possible to it. we only have white people because only white people exist, clearly
