A Lover Without a Lover

when i have kids, i promise not to be the stereotypical/overprotective asian mom my own mother is. i don’t want my kids growing up thinking every stranger they see is a rapist. i don’t want them thinking that having a crush on someone will ruin their academic lives. i don’t want them to be scared of asking me to go out with friends. i don’t want them to cry every night because they can’t live up to their mother’s high expectations. and i especially don’t want them to hate me. i want them to have their own dreams, and i will help them chase those dreams. i want them to make friends, fall in love, make mistakes because i believe that is how you learn while you’re growing up. i want them to try their hardest because A+ or not, they fucking tried. i want them to express themselves in whatever way they wish. i want them to be their own person and not something that i made them be. i want them to go out into the world fearless, because i raised them enough to know they can conquer it. i won’t hold them back like my parents do to me. i will let them grow up.

There’s a difference between ‘responsible parenting’ and 'strict parenting’