Anyanyanya

Yes, selfshipping should be for you. It should make you happy. You should make things for yourself.

But also, humans are social creatures, right? We like to share things with others and make connections, right?

So why should we look people in the eye, people who get 0 notes and interactions, and tell them that they should be doing all this for themselves, when other people get fanart for their ships?

Happy!

Art ideas

Life is good

Cons of hyperfixiation:

I am going to blow up

All my art is of the same guy

Here’s a random assortment of self-ship and f/o related blinkies I made earlier:

Feel free to use any of them if you’d like my lovelies! (˶ᵔᵕᵔ˶)

Self shippers who are never anyone's first choice – You are your F/O's first choice. Always. They would never leave you for another person, no matter how popular the ship is in the fandom, no matter how well liked that other self shipper is.

If you made yourself the second option in your F/Os canon – they're so glad they met you. They're so glad you were the second option, because you're so much better than the first option. You make them feel a fulfillment they didn't get from their first love.

If you're in a poly ship and afraid of being the third wheel – your F/O is like OH BOY TWO CAKES!!!

your blog doesn't need to be big or be noticed by tons of people to be considered a "good" one. your self-ship doesn't need to be noticed and praised by tons of people to be considered valid. you don't need any followers to help validate that your self-ship is good enough.

the point of self-shipping is to feel love for a character in a way that makes you happy. a romantic f/o is supposed to make you feel special and loved. a platonic f/o is supposed to make you feel like someone has your back. a familial f/o is supposed to make you feel like you have someone to come home to. a pet f/o is supposed to make you feel happy and joyful. an enemy f/o is supposed to make you feel creative.

getting a lot of notes, a ton of asks, a bunch of followers- that doesn't matter. self-shipping is not a popularity thing, it's not a trend, it's not something you should feel the need to put yourself out for.