I really donât understand why people say âwhat I just said canât possibly be a piece of terf ideology Iâm transâ
Like yâall do realize terfs have a lot of talking points that arenât specifically âtrans people should die,â right?
One of this talking points is that, unless youâre having sex a way they like, youâre dirty or abusive or brainwashed.
This then spins into sex worker exclusion.
The fact of the matter remains that the kind of queer history that people want to erase is the âmessyâ part that benefitted the working poor and POC.
Leather bars specifically were spaces where queer people could gather. And as certain parts of the queer community started to assimilate and become as heteronormative as possible (rich, white, cis, monosex, perisex, Christian lesbians and gays who would rather be accepted by straight society by throwing âweirderâ queers under the bus than helping their fellow queer folks) these spaces remained a safe haven for the less acceptable parts of the queer community. The dykes, the trans folks, the poly folks, the working class.
By denying this, you paint an inaccurate version of history. You paint a version of history that supports assimilation into cisheteronormative societies. You paint a version of queer history thatâs convenient for terfs because it allows them to act like they themselves didnât ostracize a large portion of the community, while also allowing them to dictate what someone elseâs proper sex life looks like.
Thereâs no problem with you not wanting to engage with kink. In fact, if kink is part of your trauma, I would deeply encourage you not to, as itâs clearly painful for you.
What you donât get to do is call an entire community of people abusers. What you donât get to do is paint an inaccurate queer history. What you donât get to do is come onto a post about the factual shared history of certain spaces and say that your personal experiences supersede everyone elseâs as well as historyâs.
By sayin all kinksters are abusers (which is both a radfem AND a Christian fundamentalist calling card) you are being disengenuous and shifting the blame from specific abusers to entire communities. When you shift the blame from specific abusers to an entire community, the response goes from âthat person shouldnât have committed abuseâ to âthat victim should have known better than to go near abusers.â You are contributing to victim blaming.
And by claiming that all kinksters are abusers, you are in fact silencing queer voices. Your silencing the voices of queer kinksters who have nothing to do with abuse, youâre silencing the voices of queer kinksters who have previously experienced abuse, and you are silencing queer kinksters who may engage with a certain kink as a form of abuse coping.
There would be no problem with you speaking about your personal experience.
But thatâs not what you did.
You came onto a post about shared history and called a bunch of people you donât know abusers.
And then you used your identity to try and escape reprimand. And you did nothing to address how what youâre saying comes from shady rhetoric that harms victims.
You didnât try to share your experience. You tried to start trouble. Thereâs a difference.