Ace Beans

Personally the only way I started to notice was through the behaviour of others, even then it was many years later before I stubbled upon the term asexuality and identified with it. Like you I just couldn’t understand people’s interest in it... I think I went along with it at first but very quickly the jokes got boring, the idea of it was boring and the obsession and importance of it shown in film and media just seemed unrealistic... 

In regards to experiencing attraction, I found myself feeling put off by the idea of physical contact and relationships. I began to think as an asexual, no one would ever love me or that I was incapable of love. It took many years after that to realise I really did like the idea of being physically intimate with someone, so long as it remained completely non-sexual. I also found out how I experience romantic, sensual and aesthetic attractions and which genders I experience them towards.

Is there anyone out there who feels they would benefit from a blog that focused on Agender/Neutrois/Non-binary identities (Primarily Agender) And an individual’s process of transitioning to a more gender neutral identity/body?

I don’t know if I’m 100% sure on what you’re asking, but again I feel any label that is important to how an individual experiences things should be respected if you actually consider yourself a decent human being who cares about people’s feelings. Personally The ace part of my identity is important for explaining to people ‘how’ I experience my relationships with people, but I feel my identity as an aromantic is just as important or in some cases more important/relevant depending on who I’m talking to or what situation I’m dealing with. 

If someone tells me that their romantic identity is more important than their orientation, then it’s really no big deal for me to just accept that and keep it in mind for that individual person, in the same way someone might tell me that their orientation is the more important part. It should definitely be down to the individual to decide that, not for others to ‘tell you’ what parts of you are more or less important. You know you best and others who care about and value you should want to respect that. 

Friend: You can’t say that, you’re asexua-

Personally I was around this age when I started to notice I didn’t seem to feel the same way as all my friends, I didn’t use the label asexual until many years later when I stumbled across others identifying in such a way online. (I didn’t even know it was a thing until then, I thought I was just abnormal)

Unfortunately the hate online does seem to be especially loud. It’s sad when it really doesn’t take that much effort to just be kind and supportive towards fellow human beings... All the hate really proves is someone’s lack of ability to understand or accept people for who they are.