Abe van Zonneveld (sunandreign)

He doesn’t possess the least amount, a tiny bit sense of shame and guilt, of justice and self respect.

His whole life, whole personality, whole contacts with others are built upon lies.

“In the early 1800’s, doctors who worked with mental patients began to notice that some of their patients who appeared outwardly normal had what they termed a “moral depravity” or “moral insanity” in that they seemed to possess no sense of ethics or of the rights of other people.

1. A condescending, disingenuous attitude This is kind of interesting: a psychopath usually won’t yell or scream when they’re in an argument or upset. Instead, they’ll attempt to summon your anger through their facial expressions and arrogant tone. But this is for certain: they want to see an emotional outburst from you. Why? Because they get a twisted satisfaction from it; a sense of conquest and superiority

2. They seek undeserved pity and sympathy Psychopaths love playing on other people’s emotions. As mentioned, they get strange enjoyment out of it. In the world of a psychopath, playing on someone’s emotions is an effective way to manipulate them for personal gain (e.g. money, attention). They’ll often tell, at best, severely distorted tales that tug on our heartstrings.

3. A history of lying and excuse-making A psychopath is almost always a liar with a tendency to make excuses. If you criticize how they’re acting, they’ll come up with some kind of reason – generally criticism of your purported behavior. They’ll always rationalize their self-serving, manipulative behavior while never working to improve it. Why improve something that is already perfect?

4. They will purposely ignore you This is especially true for those who are in a relationship with a psychopath. Again, they are experts at manipulating behavior – and it only makes sense that they’ll actively find ways to damage your self-esteem.

They don’t care about the cumulative damage that they leave in their wake…as long as they satisfy their own morbid impulses.”

“Just as an actor dons many roles, a psychopath will put on what professionals refer to as a "mask" of normality that is likable and pleasant. The psychopath is known to be the life of the party and generally appeals to everyone. They merely influence others to like them so that they are more pliable to manipulation later.

Psychopaths will often believe they are smarter or more powerful than they actually are.

They are self-centered, acting on a whim based on their own emotional state. They do whatever they want, whenever they want to.

Psychopaths loathe authority and typically view themselves as above rules.

In general, psychopaths lack any sort of moral compass. They will do whatever they need to advance, and they really don’t care who they hurt in the process.

Individuals with psychopathy have a general absence of any guilt or remorse. Callousness is one of the primary characteristics used to describe them.

Interestingly, while psychopathy precludes genuine empathy, people who have this condition are able to fake empathy very well.

A psychopath will never genuinely admit to being wrong or owning up to mistakes and errors in judgment. When pressed, they may admit to making a mistake, but manipulate others so as to avoid any consequences.

Psychopaths are experts at manipulating your emotions and insecurities into causing you to view them as the victim. This helps lower your guard and makes you vulnerable for future exploitation.

Psychopaths love to create chaos and drama. Because they tend to bore easily, it’s important that things stay interesting. They may provoke arguments and then come off as the victim. They wreak havoc on others’ lives and sit back and watch innocently.

Everyone is driven by an objective of getting what they want. But psychopaths are identified as extremely cunning in this area. They are able to get you to do things you might not normally do.

A psychopath will tell all sorts of lies—little lies to trip you up or whopping made-up stories intended to mislead. Even when telling the truth would be painless, they still default to lying. Surprisingly enough, this doesn’t cause shame. They take pride in their lies. And if you think you’ve caught them up, they simply switch around the facts to appear truthful.

Plus, they’ll never appear flabbergasted about a lie. They are calm, relaxed and able to talk their way out of anything. They never seem to get rattled about anything.

If a psychopath is backed into a corner and expected to show remorse, they may put on a show to meet the demand.”

“Because psychopaths have no empathy for the feelings, needs, or rights of others, they also feel no remorse—even when their actions harm others. Because of these combined traits and deficits, psychopaths are much more likely to engage in crime, violence, abusive behavior towards others, and other forms of cruel or dangerous behaviors.

Many psychopathic people are pathological liars and master manipulators, which can make it much more difficult to spot the signs of a psychopath. Psychopathic traits and characteristics often become more obvious when you have more frequent interactions with a person, at which point the symptoms of psychopathy may become more evident.

While they lack true empathy, they are often very skilled at “faking” prosocial behaviors like flattery, kindness, and false sympathy. They may use these skills to get things that they want from people, but eventually they are unable to keep up the act. Over time, the charm and charisma will probably wear off, unmasking an underlying coldness or cruelty.

2. Unnecessary Cruelty or a Mean Streak Once the superficial charm and charisma wears off, a psychopath will often demonstrate moments of cruelty or meanness. These may include gossip, biting comments, lashing out aggressively at others, or laughing or being entertained when they hurt or embarrass someone. Cruelty and meanness are hallmark signs of a psychopath, and often lead to a pattern of violating the rights of others

3. Lies, Exaggerations, & Dishonesty Many psychopaths are prone to pathological lying. They may exaggerate the truth to get their way, inflate their ego, or get others to think, feel or do what they want them to. Most normal people feel guilty or at least a little worried about being caught in a lie, but a psychopath’s lack of conscience makes lying a guilt-free activity. In fact, deception is even a listed symptom of ASPD, and can even show up as a person ‘faking’ remorse, empathy, or care and concern for other people.

Psychopaths commit some of the most cruel, violent, and heinous acts in society, but they rarely take responsibility for their actions. Instead, they are more likely to blame other people, make excuses, and try to justify their actions, no matter how bad they are. This sign of a psychopath is indicative of their lack of morals, conscience, and empathy, meaning they do not have the same sense of ‘right and wrong’ that most people do.

5. Need for Power, Control, & Dominance Many psychopaths seek out positions of power and authority because they enjoy domination and control of other people. According to some research, psychopaths are slightly more likely to seek out and secure positions of leadership in the corporate world, suggesting there is a grain of truth in the stereotype of the psychopathic CEO. There is also a known overlap between psychopathy, narcissism and Machiavellianism (immoral and exploitative tendencies), which can lead to a hunger for power and control.

6. Sadistic Enjoyment of Pain & Suffering Sadism is a word that describes a sick sense of pleasure from the pain and suffering of other people. In some psychopathic people, the pain of others is sexually arousing and in others, the pleasure is non-sexual and has more to do with excitement, power, or the ‘rush’ of the experience.

7. Boredom & Thrill-Seeking Behaviors Because psychopaths lack some of the normal emotional wiring that most people have, it takes a lot more to excite them, make them happy, or give them a thrill.

8. Disregard for Rules, Laws, & Norms Psychopaths do not follow the same code of ethics as most people in society, which is why they often behave in immoral or even illegal ways. These may include minor offenses like inappropriate comments or profanity or more serious offenses like crime and violence. While not all psychopaths are violent criminals, a very high percentage of people who commit crimes (especially violent crimes) have psychopathic traits.

9. Unaffected & Unafraid of Consequences While most people who engage in criminal behaviors live in fear of being caught, psychopaths don’t always have this same fear. This may be partially explained by the fact that psychopaths are believed to have abnormalities in areas of the brain that create normal fear responses, and also in the parts of the brain linked to impulse control and good long-term decision making.

10. Detached, Cold & Callous Demeanor Researchers believe that psychopaths do not have the same emotional wiring as normal people, which is why they often display a cold, callous, and apathetic demeanor. The differences in the structure of their brains is believed to limit their ability to experience a normal range of human emotions, making them less likely to experience strong emotions. In situations when others are sad, upset, anxious, or excited, a psychopath may seem oddly detached or apathetic.

Psychopaths lack the ability to empathize with other people, so it makes sense that they have trouble forming and maintaining close relationships with people. While they may be able to use their charm or powers of persuasion to fool people into liking them, they usually lack the ability to maintain these relationships over time. This is why most psychopaths have very short, shallow relationships with people, as well as many people who they’ve betrayed, hurt, or turned into enemies.

13. Exploitation of Others for Personal Gain A psychopath will use, abuse, and exploit other people, especially when it means getting something they want. In their pursuit of power, wealth, fame, and so forth, there are no lengths they won’t go to in order to get what they want. This is bound to leave many casualties in their path, and a psychopath will have no remorse when they need to throw someone under the bus in order to get ahead, even when this is someone who has helped them along the way.

Some psychopaths devise detailed plans on how to con, exploit, or take advantage of people who are naturally generous, kind, and trusting.

15. A Lack of Conscience Even when they harm another person, a psychopath will not feel genuine remorse for their actions, and they may not even be phased by the consequences of their actions when they get in trouble.

Also, a psychopath may occasionally provide a disturbing view into their twisted minds when talking about strange things they like, mean comments about others, or statements that make it clear they don’t care about other people.

19. Hostile & Oppositional by Nature Another one of the psychopath traits that is less commonly known is a hostile and oppositional demeanor. While psychopaths can pretend to be friendly, kind, and charming for a short time, their true nature is much more aggressive. Psychopaths are more likely to hold racist, sexist, or misogynistic views towards others, and also more likely to treat people in hostile or unkind ways.

20. Masters of Deception A final warning sign of a psychopath is a person who seems to be especially skilled at the art of deception. Psychopaths are masters of deception, and use lies, distortions of truth, gaslighting, and other dishonest tactics to emotionally manipulate other people and falsely represent the truth.”

“The term “psychopath” is used to describe someone who is callous, unemotional, and morally depraved.”

“The term “psychopath” was originally used to describe individuals who were deceitful, manipulative, and uncaring”.

“Psychopathic traits commonly include: Antisocial behavior Narcissism Superficial charm Impulsivity Callous, unemotional traits Lack of guilt Lack of empathy”

“Here are some of the most common signs of a psychopath:

Superficial charm — Psychopaths are often likable on the surface. They’re usually good conversationalists, and they share stories that make them look good. They may be funny and charismatic as well.

Pathological lying — Psychopaths tell lies to look good and get out of trouble. But they also tell lies to cover up their previous lies. They have difficulty keeping their stories straight sometimes as they forget what they’ve said. If challenged by anyone, they simply change their story again or rework the facts to fit the situation.

Grandiose sense of self-worth — Psychopaths have an inflated view of themselves. They see themselves as important and entitled. They often feel justified to live according to their own rules, and they think that the laws don’t apply to them.

Manipulative — Psychopaths are really good at getting other people to do what they want. They may play on one person’s guilt while lying to get someone else to do their work for them.

Lack of remorse — Psychopaths don’t care how their behavior affects other people. They may forget about something that hurts someone, or they may insist that others are overreacting when their feelings are hurt. Ultimately, they don’t experience any guilt for causing people pain. In fact, they often rationalize their behavior and blame other people.

Shallow affect — Psychopaths don’t show many emotions—at least not genuine ones. They may appear cold and unemotional much of the time. But when it serves them well, they might exhibit a dramatic display of feelings. These are usually short-lived and quite shallow.

Lack of empathy — Psychopaths struggle to understand how someone else might feel afraid, sad, or anxious. It just doesn’t make sense to them as they’re not able to read people. They’re completely indifferent to people who are suffering—even when it’s a close friend or family member.

Impulsivity — Psychopaths respond to things according to the way they feel. They don’t spend time thinking about the potential risks and benefits of their choices. Instead, they want immediate gratification.

Irresponsibility — Promises don’t mean anything to psychopaths. Whether they promise to repay a loan or sign a contract, they aren’t trustworthy.

Lack of responsibility — Psychopaths don’t accept responsibility for the problems in their lives. They see their issues as always being someone else’s fault. They frequently play the role of the victim and enjoy sharing stories about how others have taken advantage of them.”

“Most psychopaths don’t want to change because they don’t see any need to do so. They remain convinced that other people are wrong instead of them.”

“A: She betrayed you, used you as a stepping stone to her perceived self-realisation, instead of going there with you with each other's support. Am I getting this right? B: Yes, this is mostly what I mean. She only uses others as a stepping stone, she thinks by luring others and sucking others' blood, she would finally get what she wants, but she will realize, that this is the biggest mistake and illusion. B: Not necessary each other's support, but at least, some genuinely good memories you have when you think of someone. A: If she's smart enough... Some people go their whole lives without realising how wrong they have been about such things.”

“B: That was what I felt in the beginning by the contact with her too, but everyone will know in the end, such is just the signal for further control and deeper utilization. Most people have weakness in such aspect, and such weakness opens the door for outer exploiters. B: One needs to be softened first, in order to be chewed and digested better. A: Yeah, that sounds about right. A: And not all exploitation or abuse is so obvious. At least not at first. Only looking back later.”

“A: It's often hard for people to face up to their own faults, they tend to be somewhat blind to them. And I think strength lies in facing those faults and trying to be better for it. And that is something she does not seem to have done.”

Before:

B: Will you not fight back after someone had stabbed you?

sunandreign Being vile to prove a point about someone being vile is hypocritical. That's simply what it is.

After:

Anonymous: oh my god i've been stabbed what do i do

sunandreign Stab them back, obviously!

If they only stabbed you once or twice, you’ll probably be fine, provided they didn’t hit any arteries or vital organs

Before:

sunandreign About one of them I was furious, but I was 14-15 at the time and I didn't understand, I didn't know myself enough. It's embarrassing now, frankly.

sunandreign I meant that I didn't understand what my part was in getting my heart broken. Not to say it was my own fault entirely, but of course I had a responsibility in it myself. At the time, though, I was too young, too immature to understand.

B Your responsibility was you trusted that person, is it what you want to say?

sunandreign I suppose that's true ,too, but what I meant was that I must've also had part in driving them away or have them change their mind about me.

B Ok.

sunandreign None of that means that it doesn't still hurt to get my heart broken, but I'm not so angry about it any more.

After: