Interpersonal Astrology

Venus in the 8th House in Synastry

Bottom line, this overlay makes both people feel it madly. Deeply. By “it” I mean all that Venus [romance, love, beauty, sex, aesthetics etc.] and Pluto, Scorpio’s ruler and ruler of the 8th house [sex, death, transformation, obsession, possession etc.] implies.Venus is in your partner’s eighth house indicates the planet person is captivated by the house person. Now I do believe [based on experience] that both parties feel the influence of this overlay. However, typically it is the planet person that feels it more profoundly.

This is because, the house person is the host, and the planet person is the guest.

Composite Moon Opposite Pluto

Oh man…Okay, I’m going to keep it a buck with you here.

Keywords: Conflicting emotions, intensity, manipulation, Addiction, Obsession, Emotional control issues

Not just marriage, partnership in general. Descendant is who you attract, what qualities someone should have in order to make a good pair with you. What qualities in someone fulfill your own personality. 

Venus in the composite 8th house is such a romantic, passionate placement. For majority of composite cases this happens between people in affairs but also in soul mate relationships. This is seen as the holy grail in composite chart readings. Mainly because both people usually feel this immense feeling within them, that they found their true love. Similar to Sun in composite 8th, there is a feeling of destiny. However Venus in the 8th is much more romantic and sensual. There is a lot of drama and passion. The kind of love you seen in movies or read about in novels. That being said, doesn’t mean the relationship will be roses and a walk on a beach. Far from it. The 8th house is meant to make or break people. It forces heavy, karmic challenges that are suppose to transform deeply. Both people could be madly in love but be married or the relationship is not ideal in other ways. There is a big challenge usually with this placement, which means that the couple will be dealt with some tough, and possibly morally questionable situations. Their love can grow so deep over time that if anyone tries to force them apart it becomes the end of the world. There is a good chance they see each other as soul-mates. They very well could be soul-mates. The love here if Venus has positive aspects can be beautiful and primal. They love to be together because the sex is amazing, and they really connect on a different level. They love to touch and look at each other. The energy with them together is deeply magnetic and they can hold a lot of envy from outsiders. They are compelling couple. If there are negative aspects then there will be extreme themes of jealousy, obsession, stalking and potentially sexual violence. Normally it just plays out as this crazy, deep love which consumes the soul. If heart break happens here, then it can leave one or both parties souls feeling jaded and betrayed. 

Sun in the 8th house composite is often seen in the charts of karmic partnerships and in some cases ’“soul-mates”. There is a real feeling between both parties that their meeting was destined to happen. Whether it is a long-term relationship or a brief affair; it’ll leave both people transformed. The Sun lights up the secrets and problems of the 8th house. This can be uncomfortable at times because the Sun sees right through the 8th house. So it is important for both parties to be open and honest from the beginning or there can be mistrust in the future and paranoia. The attraction is SUPER magnetic and can be repulsive for some people who aren’t used to such potent energy. The energy of the Sun meets the depths and shadows of Pluto, the 8th house ruler. The Sun is compelled to explore the darkness and in most cases moves forward with the 8th house. They are compelled to be together, no matter the cost. This can be seen in the composite chart of affairs or people who have a taboo relationship.  They could have met at an inconvenient time, but still decide to come together anyways. This can be selfish in so many ways, so be careful with this one.  They can have epic arguments, which flare up like smothering flames of hell then burns through a night of long passionate sex. Sex is a main factor of the relationship because it goes beyond the physical boundaries and confinements of the body. With negative aspects they can be addicted to each other. In positive contacts to the Sun, it can show deep, yet good transformations through out the relationship itself. This is not a light and playful composite Sun. This is a serious, karmic contact usually. They have something they need to work out together, and the 8th house does not always guarantee a happy ending. That’s not to say it wont work out. It very well can, and it can be a very romantic, deep relationship. Just look out for jealousy, lying, manipulation, or any rash behavior which might get you in trouble later.  The love between the two can not be measured or pinned down. It just exists on a deep, profound level. They would do just about anything for each other.

(This post is about synastry. May also apply to Venus signs. All planets count, but the malefics [Mars, Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, Pluto] will lots of need work. As always, there can be exceptions depending on the rest of the chart.)

Aries moons should be in relationships with people who have planets that fall in their 1st house. It fulfills their need for competition, confrontation, validation, camaraderie, openness, excitement, liveliness, and encouragement.

Taurus moons should be in relationships with people who have planets that fall in their 2nd house. It fulfills their need for indulgence, pampering, leisure, homemaking, patience, dependability, shared values, and pragmatism.

Gemini moons should be in relationships with people who have planets that fall in their 3rd house. It fulfills their need for intrigue, conversation, humor, silliness, teasing, communication, wit, a mental bond, and gossip.

Cancer moons should be in relationships with people who have planets that fall in their 4th house. It fulfills their need for comfort, nurturance, privacy, sympathy, closeness, familiarity, safety, rapport, sensitivity, and stability.

Leo moons should be in relationships with people who have planets that fall in their 5th house. It fulfills their need for passion, entertainment, delight, creativity, attention, affection, romance, creativity, and gratification.

Virgo moons should be in relationships with people who have planets that fall in their 6th house. It fulfills their need for care, help, appreciation, relief, teamwork, support, selflessness, acknowledgement, and being listened to.

Libra moons should be in relationships with people who have planets that fall in their 7th house. It fulfills their need for an other half, completion, balance, juxtaposition, self-discovery, being complemented, and being understood.

Scorpio moons should be in relationships with people who have planets that fall in their 8th house. It fulfills their need for depth, intensity, passion, mystery, power dynamics, intimacy, extreme connection, and being discovered.

Sagittarius moons should be in relationships with people who have planets that fall in their 9th house. It fulfills their need for adventure, recklessness, openness, abundant possibilities, and philosophical/intellectual stimulation.

Capricorn moons should be in relationships with people who have planets that fall in their 10th house. It fulfills their need for recognition, being believed in, motivation, fortification, progress, and worldly presence/impact.

Aquarius moons should be in relationships with people who have planets that fall in their 11th house. It fulfills their need for community, friendship, unity, purpose, acknowledgement of potential, hope, faith, and mutual goals.

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Isobel Thrilling

I think venus in the 8th house men and women tend to really gravitate towards withdrawn or shy types mainly because they value decoding and digging that comes with understanding those types of people. The idea of a quiet or unknown relationship is usually what they prefer and I used to always chalk it up to the 8th house influence over venus making the love nature more private, but in my observations? I think it’s less about “I want to keep you hidden” and more about “you’re mines and mines alone and I don’t want anyone invloved in what we have.” It’s not that they don’t value their lovers enough to show them to the world, it’s more so that they’re so protective and possessive over their lovers and values that the outside world becomes a threat to this security. For them venus, Love, intimacy, romance all become a private act only allowed between their lovers and them.

People often compare this to Scorpio venus and That’s actually where the line had to be drawn. Scorpio venus is intense, passionate and ardent in love but that doesn’t always mean that they hide lovers or struggle with the ability to loosen their grip! Especially if their venus sits in an air house or fire house. Venus in the 8th is having its energy projected into the house of the 8th! It’s sitting in the heavy and almost suffocating energy of the 8th house often creating a more powerful/private energy towards Venusian affairs. For them love is something that’s intertwined with the shadows it’s something like a heavy commitment and bond that can’t ever be just “lighthearted” where as with a Scorpio venus it could.

Scorpio tends to show love through physical intimacy and can become quite sexual once in a relationship since Scorpio themes and values are going to be more prevalent once you start dating them! But with venus in the 8th sex is never just “expression” it’s deep and intoxicating. Every moment of sex with these natives is them letting you in, and sex with them is often a transformative experience because it’s them pouring all of their love and soul into you. They’re not able to casually invite sex into a relationship until they trust you and even this can take years. They value truth and sincerity much like Scorpio venus but they’re unable to control their more intense and overwhelming qualities which Scorpio can. The contrast between these two can seem hard to spot but in a sense one is the embodiment of mars and Pluto whilst the other is the embodiment of transformation/death/the unseen and the shadow. In a sense venus in the 8th house natives can approach relationships, intimacy and sexual situations with charm and loving tenderness but will still always be “watching” observing and tugging invincible strings to ensure that your union remains hidden and private under every circumstance. Seldom will you see these natives boast about lovers even if they have a Leo chart! They’ll want attention but not from the outside world, only from their partner.

ASCENDANT in house overlays: “Welcome to my life” 

Where your Ascendant falls in your partner’s house is the area where you feel “introduced” or initiated in their life. It can say something about how you met, how they first saw you, the impression you left on them. Similar to the Sun’s overlay in that you express yourself naturally in that area of their life, your ego and identity and personal mark is made in that area of their life, you are seen and recognized by them, you represent a strong presence to them in that area. 

NORTH + SOUTH NODE in house overlays: “You feel familiar”

Where your North Node falls in your partner’s house is the area of their life where you feel called towards, which most likely is a different house than where it falls in your own chart. This is because individuals can be called to pursue a different direction when considering how they fit in relation to another person’s life. They might have to work on a particular area in their own life, but when involved with someone else, the focus is elsewhere and pertaining to the partner’s life. This is the area of their life where your presence was meant to serve a larger purpose. You could learn the lessons of your North Node sign through involving yourself in the affairs of your partner’s house.  Where your South Node falls in your partner’s house is the area where you are the ultimate experienced mastermind. Somehow, in relation to your partner’s life, you just know that area well and have mastered it previously, so you represent wisdom and knowledge to them regarding that area.

SUN in house overlays: “You light up my life”

Where your Sun falls in your partner’s house is the area where you vitalize and energize them. You could represent an authority figure or someone they look up to in that area, as you as the Sun are representative of a strong, beaming presence in their life. They feel seen and recognized as a unique, creative individual with purpose in that area. You are interested in that area of their life and want to shine a light on how they handle those matters. You inspire them to want to shine and be noticed in that area, to show themselves off and be more confident in how they do things. Ultimately, you bring this area into focus, it’s where you play a significant role - you lead them and end up taking charge here.

MOON in house overlays: “I’ll take care of you”

Where your Moon falls in your partner’s house is the area where you are emotionally invested, where you bring out the question of what they need to feel safe and secure, where you yourself want to care for and provide for them whatever it is they need. You nurture and protect this part of them. They feel prioritized, valued, and deeply understood by you in that area. They don’t need to say or explain much about that part of their life, you just instinctively know what they’re thinking about it and what they need to feel fulfilled in that area. A strong potential for intimate soul bonding surrounding the matters of that house. They may rely on you for comfort and security in that area.

MERCURY in house overlays: “Tell me about it”

Where your Mercury falls in your partner’s house is the area where you are interested in connecting mentally and intellectually with them. You are naturally curious about that part of their life and want to discuss those matters with them. You bring about topics concerning that area that they might not normally gravitate to, but feel an ease and openness around you to discuss them. Being around you helps stimulate their mind to think about and talk about that part of their life, it’s the subject that comes naturally to them when it comes to conversing with you. You might introduce new skills or new interests in that area.

VENUS in house overlays: “What I like about you”

Where your Venus falls in your partner’s houses is the area where you bring beauty, a sense of peace and harmony, and appreciation. Your partner feels at ease in that area because of you. They see you as an asset to that part of their life, or something to show off because of how good you make them feel in that area. Your Venus in that particular house shows that you are attracted to that part of them. You desire that part of them and in particular, to form a relationship with them based on the matters of that house.

MARS in house overlays: “I challenge you”

Where your Mars falls in your partner’s houses is the area where you stimulate them in a physical and aggressive sense. You instinctively start conflict with them in that area, pushing their buttons to provoke them, saying “I challenge you” here. This is where you bring heat, passion, and light a fire under their ass. It becomes a sensitive area for them because they feel you pushing, poking, and prodding them there. To them, It might be annoying, it might feel exciting, but it is definitely stimulating and will definitely bring out a reaction from them. You may get impatient with them in this area of their life. You will also motivate them to take more action and stand up for themselves in that area too.

JUPITER in house overlays: “I’m your biggest fan”

Where your Jupiter falls in your partner’s houses is the area where you are their biggest cheerleader and good luck charm. Things seem to work out very well for them in that area when you’re around. This is the area where your very presence seems to do wonders for them. They feel happier, more positive, and confident in that area because of you. You will also inspire them to be bolder and more risk-taking in that area, because your presence there helps them to believe the sky is the limit - they can’t go wrong, even if risk is involved. You think highly of them in that particular aspect of their life, and they see you as a confidante or guru within that realm as well.

CHIRON in house overlays: “Be careful with me”

Where your Chiron falls in your partner’s house is the area where you have the potential to either inflict upon them the most emotional, psychological, and karmic damage as a response to being hurt, or, having learned from the past, where you can impart wisdom to them.. You bring your own past baggage to this part of their life, making them feel more sensitive and self-conscious about that particular area when before it meant nothing to them. It can either feel intrusive or therapeutic for them, but you can’t help but share your past harmful experiences in that area, you’ve collected your fair share of bruises  and are learning how to recover yourself. Perhaps you might be looking for recovery through them, via that particular area of their life. You seek comfort and understanding, which they  provide that via the affairs of that house.

SATURN in house overlays: “You can do better”

Where your Saturn falls in your partner’s houses is the area where you play the role of the strict teacher or authority for them. You give them a hard time in that area because you are seen as the wiser, more experienced “authority” relating to those matters, and you’re there to help shape them up. It’s where you may look at how they handle the affairs of that house, and want to teach them how to do things better. You slow them down in that area. This is the area where they can feel judged by you or self-conscious when you watch how they handle that area. All of a sudden, that part of their life feels heavier and like they need to be more serious about it. They can feel either criticized by you or stabilized by your presence when they deal with that area.

URANUS in house overlays: “Spice up your life”

Where your Uranus falls in your partner’s house is the area where you can help break them out of a routine and completely change the way they deal with the matters of that house. You can help them see things in a new light, introduce an innovative approach, and bring about progress in that area. Relating to matters of that house, they can see you as unreliable or unpredictable, while you see that part of their life as needing to be shaken up and introduce them to a whole new perspective on how to deal with it. This is also where you can play devils advocate for them, challenge them to think differently, try handling things in a totally new, fresh and unexpected way. You represent a feeling of being limitless and totally free from restriction, in how they approach that part of their life.

NEPTUNE in house overlays: “You’re the inspiration”

Where your Neptune falls in your partner’s house is the area where you have the possibility of deceiving them the most, putting up something fake and pretty to disguise something less favorable. It’s where you can give them false hope, but also where you inspire them and give them a sense of idealism. You bring imagination and creativity to this area of their life, as well as compassion and sensitivity. You want to save them from themselves regarding the matters of that house. In that area of their life is where they feel the most enchanted by your spell, you are able to influence them in thinking things are better than they really are. They may feel you are there to help them with something and unknowingly use you as a carrier for all of their burdens or worries in that area. Life feels like it has a little more magic in that part of their life because of you.

PLUTO in house overlays: “Surrender to me”