syncity

It’s why I keep saying that strategy matters. If you’re going to the ballet just to be seen at the ballet, why? If you don’t enjoy it, aren’t involved in a group that promotes it, and are only attending because you think people will see you and automatically think you’re “classy” or “high value”, you’re wasting your time. If you’re not an actively involved member of your city’s young professionals clubs and social groups; looking for ways to meet people and mingle; and focused on building a network and a community, you’re wasting your potential. Nothing gets done by sitting around and hoping to be seen. You have to actively and sometimes aggressively pursue things to see results.

Build a life that is unmistakably yours. Form your identity. Explore and refine your taste. Know what moves you, what inspires you. Be your own muse, go to shopping malls and smell new perfumes/try the clothes on instead of getting your inspiration online. A woman without a strong sense of identity risks losing herself in this world.

I remember my mother once saying that she had "nothing." That sentence has stayed with me. Many women were robbed of their identity whether by marrying the wrong man or by being reduced solely to the roles of wife and mother. They were never truly given the opportunity to explore their womanhood in all its depth.