To thine own self be true.

Tuesday Tidbits!

~15 states, in the US, still have archaic laws on the books that criminalize oral sex. (Not enforceable yet active). 👀😬

~Music reduces pain & anxiety in cancer patients... (I think music can heal a lot of things for all of us.) 😉🎵

~In Utah, 1st cousins can marry if both are over 65 yrs of age or both are 55 and unable to reproduce. 🥴🤢

~According to a recent Psycology study, overthinking is a sign of deep care, not obsession ~ the mind attempts to protect what it values. 🧠🤯

~No laws ban sex with a truck driver in a toll booth... 😂 (You're welcome, I think?)🤔

~Kindness is free... sprinkle it everywhere. 🥰

Have a fabulous day!

Tumblr shows us all the sexiness of D/s, but what it rarely shows us, is the struggle. And let’s be clear, D/s is often a struggle. A war raging in the minds of its participants.

For the submissive, the question of how much to give. She may want to be taken sexually, because it’s fun and enjoyable. But what about her mind? Is she prepared to let him alter her behaviors, change the way she acts or reacts? Is she prepared to suffer the shame or humiliation of punishments? How far will she allow herself to be pushed? To what levels of depravity is she prepared to sink to be with this man? Can she submit when she’s tired, or scared, or hurt or angry?

For the Dominant, can he effectively set and maintain his boundaries? Can he uphold his responsibilities to be honest, to provide for her growth, her safety, and her happiness, all while balancing her needs for his strength and determination to guide her? Can he hold himself as accountable as he holds her - or more? And what about when times are hard - will he cave, will he break? Will he let his own morals slide for the sake of convenience?