Reasons an FP/anyone may not have replied to you yet
I know that a lot of us with BPD- and other disorders such as anxiety, DPD, paranoia etc- can get really worried when those we care about donโt reply- or anyone! We worry they hate us, are angry, are leaving us, are hurt. So, hereโs a list of possible reasons why they may not be replying that arenโt those!ย
Theyโre asleep. This is kinda subjective to the time theyโre in, but this included naps! Sometimes people fall asleep suddenly, or fall asleep before your reply
Theyโre busy. They made need to focus on something, or not be allowed on their phone. Or, they want to save their reply to you for when they can put their full attention on you and give a proper reply
Theyโre unsure how to reply yet. sometimes people need time to think of how to reply, and want to give a proper one
They donโt feel like talking to anyone right now. Itโs not that they donโt wanna talk to you specifically- they may just be socially drained or want to focus on themselves!ย
Theyโre not in a mental place where they can reply to you. This includes perhaps theyโre dissociating, or canโt think straight to replyย
Their phone is dead.ย Plain and simple
Their wifi dropped. Same againย
Theyโre taking pleasure time. Video games, reading anything. Sometimes people need time to relax- it doesnโt mean that they donโt enjoy talking to you, they just wanna fully immerse themselves in their activity.
Theyโre interacting with someone/in a situation where itโs not appropriate to use their phone. Maybe at dinner, church, a lesson, anything
They suddenly have to deal with somethingย urgent.
They forgot. I know this one is scary/hurts- but it doesnโt mean youโre not important to them! Maybe they saw your message whilst busy, thought they need to reply later, then forgot. Some people also have memory issues that mean they forget to reply to things.
Theyโre not logged into what you talk in. This goes esp for facebook/tumblr
They havnโt got your message. This can be for lots of reasons! Bad connection, app is broken, phone is slow, anything like that
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