Fighting for My Son's Safety: A Mother's Story
I want to share openly that the anonymous post on social media was mine. This story is about my son.
My name is Darian Thomas, and Iโm his mom. I decided to post again from my personal page because I want to invite anyone who feels called to help, to please reach out to me directly. Families like mine shouldnโt be put in this position, but here we areโand I know weโre not alone.
Iโm willing to take any and all suggestions, and Iโm also willing to build an army if others are interested in standing with us. My son deserves safety, dignity, and the supports his medical team has fought for. Thank you for reading and for caring. Together, we can make more noise than any of us could alone.
My son is six years old, medically fragile, and neurodevelopmentally complex. He receives nutrition and hydration through a G-tube, has severe bowel issues, and is diagnosed with Autism, ADHD, anxiety, and a rare genetic condition. His safety depends on highly skilled, familiar caregivers who know his scripts, sensory routines, and medical and behavioural protocols.
Since birth, Iโve been his sole guardian. This summer, I was hospitalized for medical reasons. In my absence, my son was also admitted to BC Childrenโs Hospital because there were no trained caregivers available to support him at home.
Together with his doctors and specialists, we created a clear, safe, family-led discharge plan:
My brother (my sonโs uncle) would step in as interim guardian.
My sonโs 24-hour Behaviour Intervention teamโalready trained in his G-tube and care routines at BCCHโwould continue uninterrupted.
A private nursing agency was prepared to provide RN oversight to meet legal delegation requirements.
Every one of my sonโs treating professionals supported this plan. His pediatrician, psychiatrist, behavioural analyst, and clinical counsellor all wrote letters warning that moving him to strangers would be โhighly detrimentalโ and unsafe.
On August 28, 2025, the Ministry of Children and Family Development (MCFD) ignored all professional recommendations. I was told there were new โchild protection concerns,โ and without warning, they:
Suspended my guardianship, decision-making authority, and contact with my child.
Escorted my sonโs trained BI team out of the hospital and barred their return.
Blocked my brother from being with him, despite admitting they had no concerns about him. They failed to follow up with him the next day, right before a long weekend, leaving no clarity on contact.
Pursued an emergency placement with unfamiliar caregivers who had no training in my sonโs medical or behavioural care.
The placement they chose was the same resource the Ministry had previously proposed under a Special Needs Agreementโa plan I had already declined.
I immediately submitted written concerns to senior officials at both MCFD and BCCH, outlining the risks, lack of readiness, and why government care was not in my sonโs best interests. Despite that, MCFD forced this option, disregarding medical evidence and my sonโs fragile needs.
My sonโs care team has always been strong and engaged. Yet the moment I declined voluntary MCFD care in order to keep him safe at home, โchild protection concernsโ suddenly appearedโserious enough, apparently, to justify an abrupt apprehension. Not a single professional on my sonโs team supported this action.
The Directorโs mandate is to take the least intrusive measure. Instead, they chose the most intrusive and dangerous oneโremoving my son from the only people who know how to keep him safe and regulated.
That same night, my lawyer wrote to the Director, calling this negligence โappallingโ and warning that it placed my son at immediate risk. Our voices, and the voices of his medical team, were ignored.
My son is not the first child harmed by this system, and unless we keep speaking out, he wonโt be the last. Families like ours need allies, advocates, and accountability.
Thank you for reading our story. Please consider standing with us.
You can sign and share my petition to bring Bennett home safely here:
๐ Petition to Bring Bennett Home Safely
Source: Fighting for My Son's Safety: A Mother's Story