#yourdestiny

For what feels like the 1,000th time in the past few years, I put on my “power” outfit and stepped into an interview room, ready to be judged by those sitting at the other end of the table. You see…I firmly believe that if you change nothing, nothing will change.  So, I’ve spent my time and energy over the past few years putting myself “out there”, educating myself, improving myself, taking on new endeavors, in order to grow professionally.  But, when the other people sitting across from you at an interview table are judging everything from your hair, to your philosophy on education, to your communication style, they don’t always get to see the changes you’ve made and the progress you’ve charted.  In approximately 30 minutes, they decided whether I checked all the boxes on their rubric.  And yet again, I came up short…in their eyes.

This whole process is utterly exhausting – growth and the pursuit of it. Writing and rewriting my resume, planning mock professional development, reading material supporting the potential job switch, and rehearsing my responses to hypothetical interview questions – this pursuit has left me blurry-eyed in front of my computer screen many days and nights. Sometimes I would find myself mulling over the best word to describe my leadership skills, only to return to my original wording hours later.  Here’s the thing…at times I’ve tried so hard to complete their rubric and fit into their idea of a picture-perfect employee. What I’ve found…that as they judge, I have come to embrace my own quirks and imperfections.  If I tracked my life based on their rubric I would be constantly grappling with my imperfections. So, I decided to flip my mindset - rewrite the rubric!

My husband’s new managing director asked him to sit down and write out two personal goals, two professional goals, and two financial goals…then he suggested that my hubby should come home and work through these goals with me. The fact that his boss is working with him and offered up the importance of working on these goals with his spouse – mind blowing! There are people out their who will, rather than demand you fit into their rubric – help you grow so that you become the best version of yourself. On a six-hour car ride home from vacation, my husband and I shared our goals. We are still working through the logistics, but the idea that growth is in his hands, in my hands - I feel like we get to rewrite the rubric and choose the destiny that best fits our family.

I may not have obtained the professional titles I’ve been seeking over the past few years or given the perfect “cookie-cutter” answers others were seeking at the interview table, but it doesn’t mean that the challenges they’ve presented me haven’t taught me anything.

Your Destiny of Being Totally Free by XUEMO

Based on what I found in tracking my social media and how I use to record it was doing it old school writing it on a paper and writing the time and what I was doing which I have shown on part 1. The default option I created a span of social- media free time and see what happens which was a 24-hour period time. I think mine was a 2-to-4-hour period I just logged everything from me waking up to me going to sleep.  I saw this experiment as a test that I needed to know myself if I would be able to live without my phone and I did for like 4 hours I was home with my family just relaxing not looking at no phone but interacting with my family. You’ve got lots of things on your plate, and only so many hours in the day to get everything done. So, you put your head down and focus on what you know, especially when it comes to social media marketing, the use of being on the phone or any other tasks that must be done. As you can see social media experiments are never perfect so we just have to flow with what we would like to achieve with the experiment. There are many factors are out of your control, like organic reach as it is often determined by unique social media algorithms. But that doesn’t mean you can't generate meaningful social media results. You learn from your learnings. Whether experiments were successful experiment or not the key is to have fun and learn as you go to see how far you can go without the use of technology and learn something new enjoy with what is around you and have fun. Make new memories without using social media, technology and enjoy what is important. My experience like many people have described and I have seen myself is that social media is an addiction. But at least for me, stopping required only mild concentration at first, then became second nature. It is hard to put the technology away when interesting things pop up and you want, to know what it is about and forget what you are supposed to be doing. Technology is dangerous even when you get in the car and like they say no text and driving it is a deadly weapon so pretty much it’s the same when you have in your hand getting distracted and not using your time proactively to get things done. But what can we do we are only human we learn by the moment and we time manage, we set schedules for ourselves and we achieve what we want to once we put our mind to it. Like they say the mind is a powerful thing when you fill it with positive thoughts your life will start to change.