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Criticizes and judges from the sidelines

Is condescending and superior

Is threatened by honesty and directness

Swings between idealizing and devaluing him-/herself and others

Denies and dismisses others’ feelings

Cultivates a public image sharply different from his/her private behavior

Identifies as a victim

Is cynical and sarcastic

Makes unreasonable demands

Turns your problems into his/her dramas

Belittles and blames

Exploits and/or attacks others’ vulnerability

Is reactive to questioning or criticism

Plays on sympathies

Fakes or exaggerates illness/injury for attention

Withholds and stonewalls

Gaslights

Avoids introspection and lacks self-awareness

Uses platitudes in place of genuine insight

Denies own anger

Focuses on unfairness

Is envious and vengeful

Prefers to remain behind the scenes 

Gossips

Triangulates

Holds a grudge

Needs reassurance

Is inattentive or annoyed when others talk

Has double standards

Hates to lose

Fixates on others’ problems and misfortunes

Flatters and fawns to win favor

Displays rage and contempt in private

Crosses normative boundaries and codes of conduct

Pokes, prods, and pries

Feels special through association

Feels above the rules

Uses guilt and shame to control and punish

Expects care-taking

Sorry for all the days I have been too hard on you, for the days I combusted you with too much stress, when I gave you too little of the happiness that I want to share with you. My heart felt apologies for the times where you cried yourself to sleep and felt alone. At a point where you ever felt like giving up. I am sorry for so many things. You deserve so much , more than my stupid mind allows you to enjoy. You have won your fair share of treatment and it is still due. You are a story and I can't wait to get to the next chapter. I promise I am going to handle you with more love, more care and more trust. Thank you for all that you do and all that you are.

- from me.