Lowkey I hate how everyone's mad at Spike and Anya for fucking one time. Buffy and Xander have every right to be hurt, but like. Mad? Mad. Like they did something wrong. Anya and Spike hang out, they commiserate a bit, have a few drinks, and have some nice feel-better sex with someone who's making them feel seen and heard. That is more than fair. I honestly think what they did was healthy. A good way to boost the ol' self esteem, process things a bit, all very up front about what it was and what they were doing with each other. And yet. They're somehow the bad guys. The purity culture in this so ass.