1. Leaving is valid but not always easy
Walking away might be the best way to protect yourself. But you might need the paycheck, benefits, or simply not have an exit yet. Leaving is okay. Staying is okay. This is about survival.
2. Sometimes staying is the safer option (for now)
If you’re planning to report or take legal action, staying a bit longer might help you gather proof or get advice. Leaving too soon can hurt your case or your finances. It’s unfair, but sometimes smarter.
3. Talk to a lawyer before you leave
Even if you're ready to go, a quick legal consult can help. Some lawyers will talk for free. Quitting might affect benefits or your ability to file. Ten minutes could shift your whole plan (and life path).
4. Think about what you’re really leaving
Sometimes it's a whole career or dream you're stepping away from. That’s a real loss. If you're grieving it, don't feel weak. Feel human, human (you're human)!
5. Don’t make fast moves, make smart ones
Start looking before the job breaks you. Quitting with no plan can make things harder. I've been in "anywhere but here” mode wayyy too many times to count, but trust me, you deserve more.
6. Frame your exit in your own words
Future employers don’t need the full truth. “It wasn’t the right fit” is plenty. Share more only if it feels right. You set the boundaries now.
7. Save your evidence and protect your access
If you’ve documented anything, save it privately (off work devices). If you file a report later, that paper trail can matter.
8. Whatever you choose, you're not alone
There’s no perfect response to harassment. Whether you stay or go, speak up or stay quiet, your path is valid. What matters is your safety, sanity and peace.
NOTE: I've been writing these homemade listicles down on paper with a fancy fountain pen I got as a birthday present recently (pic above). I don't really know why but thinking thoughts out loud with my hands is just better. Clearer, dare I say, healing? I know my handwriting is indecipherable trash and most of you won't be able to read it, but I still like how the curves look on the whole.
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yeah, yeah, "see the userbase aging in real time" but I had to make a presentation for my Management class in grad school and I'm actually proud of this and think it could help people and my classmates found it witty and useful! (thank fuck tumblr supports more than 10 images at a time now)
It's not just useful for work meetings, but any planned meeting where stuff needs to get done!
all slides described in alt text (except references because I don't want people to have to listen to all that and don't expect anyone to actually seek these articles out).
Since apparently I needed to tell several of my coworkers this today, I will share this wisdom: make sure your timesheets are accurate if you are working overtime.
Specific details of policies will vary from company to company, but if you work an office job where you are expected to log how much time you spend a day working on different stuff (e.g. client projects, internal meetings, etc.) and you routinely find yourself working longer than your official hours LOG THOSE EXTRA HOURS!!!
This came up after a junior coworker was saying she'd done a week recently where she was working 11-12 hours each day for the full week and then did a couple of hours on the Saturday. I had to explain the concept of time off in lieu. Basically, over the course of that week, she'd worked the equivalent of two full days extra, so she was entitled to take a couple of days off in exchange. She could have gone to her manager and asked for two days of time of work - but only if the time is recorded.
Several of us have been telling management that we need to hire more people to cover the work and that lots of teams are massively overworked. But if everyone is logging normal 8 hour days, their reports aren't going to reflect that. But if a team of 5 people start logging enough hours for 6 people, that shows up in the numbers in the reports and they can use that to argue for hiring more people.
And it can make sure projects are estimated accurately. If a piece of work is expected to take 5 days but it regularly takes people 7, the project managers will only know to book 7 days for the work instead of 5 next time if that's recorded.
Basically, if you are being expected to work extra hours, make sure the paperwork is saying that.
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how would you recommend moving from retail to white collar work? I hate working retail and wanna move to an office job but it's hard
It's tough because a lot of companies no longer have entry-level roles being advertised as such (most "entry-level" roles are actually junior or even senior-level roles being paid entry-level wages). This has been a problem brewing in the professional world for years now, because not wanting to train new talent on how to work your field has already led to labor shortages as more and more people are retiring/transitioning to different fields.
HOWEVER, all is not lost and there are still routes to white collar work available for people. I work in accounting and I got my start when I was working as a receptionist for a small company. They wanted me to have stuff to do between calls so they started training me on how to do accounting stuff. I was then able to leverage my accounting experience to get an actual billing job at a different company.
From what I understand, having receptionists be trained in other areas of work is a very common practice because it allows the company to pay receptionist-level (ie, low) wages to someone who's doing higher-level work. It sucks that you have to put up with being exploited for a while, but getting a job as a receptionist and then transitioning into a different role (either at the same company or a different one) is one of the best paths to breaking into white collar work.
Temp agencies and recruiters are also great for helping you get your foot in the door at places that wouldn't have looked at you otherwise. A LOT of companies outsource their hiring to temp agencies and recruiters and if they like you they can hype you up. That's actually how I got my current job.
Something to also be aware of is that a lot of jobs offered by recruiters are contract work, meaning that the position is temporary and you don't get benefits like healthcare or PTO. A lot of contract positions are contract-to-hire, meaning that you can get hired full-time if you do a good enough job, but you can't bank on getting hired in a timely manner or at all (my partner didn't get hired at their job they kick ass at until two fucking years had passed).
However, in my experience most contract-to-hire jobs will make up their minds about you within a few months. As someone trying to break into office work, you unfortunately may need to take contract roles until you build up enough experience to have a more impressive resume.
I also can't emphasize enough how much of a leg up you have against other people if you're even remotely tech savvy (namely with PCs and Microsoft Office) and have good communication/writing skills. The bar is in hell even in white collar spaces so if you can write professional emails and are generally pleasant your coworkers and managers will think highly of you, lol.
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Soaring into Aerospace: NASA Interns Take Flight at EAA AirVenture Oshkosh
Sustainable Aviation Ambassadors Alex Kehler, Bianca Legeza-Narvaez, Evan Gotchel, and Janki Patel pose in front of the NASA Pavilion at EAA AirVenture Oshkosh.
It’s that time of year again–EAA AirVenture Oshkosh is underway!
Boasting more than 650,000 visitors annually, EAA AirVenture Oshkosh, or “Oshkosh” for short, is an airshow and fly-in held by the Experimental Aircraft Association (EAA). Each year, flight enthusiasts and professionals from around the world converge on Oshkosh, Wisconsin, to engage with industry-leading organizations and businesses and celebrate past, present, and future innovation in aviation.
This year, four NASA interns with the Electrified Powertrain Flight Demonstration (EPFD) project count themselves among those 650,000+ visitors, having the unique opportunity to get firsthand experience with all things aerospace at Oshkosh.
Alex Kehler, Bianca Legeza-Narvaez, Evan Gotchel, and Janki Patel are Sustainable Aviation Ambassadors supporting the EPFD project, which conducts tests of hybrid electric aircraft that use electric aircraft propulsion technologies to enable a new generation of electric-powered aircraft. The focus of Alex, Bianca, Evan, and Janki’s internships cover everything from strategic communications to engineering, and they typically do their work using a laptop. But at Oshkosh, they have a special, more hands-on task: data collection.
“At Oshkosh, I am doing some data collection to better estimate how we can be prepared in the future,” said Janki, an Aerospace Engineering major from the University of Michigan. “Coming to Oshkosh has been an amazing experience… I can walk around and see people passionate about the work they do.”
The NASA Pavilion at EAA AirVenture Oshkosh is full of interactive exhibits and activities for visitors to engage with. NASA Interns Alex, Bianca, Evan, and Janki are collecting data in the pavilion to help improve future exhibits at Oshkosh.
In addition to gathering data to help inform future NASA exhibits and activities at Oshkosh, the interns also have the opportunity to engage with visitors and share their passion for aviation with other aero enthusiasts. For Evan, who is receiving his Master's in Aerospace Engineering from the Georgia Institute of Technology, “being able to be here and talk with people who are both young and old who are interested in what the future of flight could be has been so incredible.”
Alex, Evan, Bianca, and Janki pose in front of NASA’s Super Guppy, a specialized aircraft used to transport oversized cargo.
At Oshkosh, one memory in particular stands out for Alex, Bianca, Evan, and Janki: seeing NASA’s famous Super Guppy in person. With a unique hinged nose and a cargo area that's 25 feet in diameter and 111 feet long, the Super Guppy can carry oversized cargo that is impossible to transport with other cargo aircraft.
“We had a very lucky experience… We were able to not only see the Super Guppy, we got to get up close when it landed,” said Bianca, who is receiving her Master's in Business Administration with a specialization in Strategic Communications from Bowling Green State University. “From a learning experience, it gave me a way better basis on cargo aircraft and how they operate.”
For Alex, who is receiving his Master's in Aeronautical Engineering from the Georgia Institute of Technology, it was exciting to see the Super Guppy’s older technology integrated with newer technologies up close. “There have been a lot of good memories, but I think the best one was the Super Guppy. It was cool to see this combination of 60’s and 70’s technology with this upgraded plane.”
Evan and Janki pose for a photo while walking around EAA AirVenture Oshkosh.
With Oshkosh coming to a close this Sunday, July 30, Alex, Bianca, Evan, and Janki also reflected on advice they have for future NASA interns on how they can get the most out of their internship: be curious and explore, connect with people who work in the field you’re interested in, and don’t be afraid to ask questions.
Alex advises potential NASA interns to “dream big and shoot for your goals, and divide that up into steps… In the end it will work out.” For Bianca, being open and exploring is key: “take opportunities, even if it’s the complete opposite thing that you were intending to do.”
“Ask questions all the time,” said Evan. “Even outside the internship, always continue asking people about what they are knowledgeable on.” And Janki encourages future interns to “Follow your own path. Get the help of mentors, but still do your own thing.”
Visiting Oshkosh and want to see NASA science in action? Stop by the NASA Pavilion, located at Aviation Gateway Park, and see everything from interactive exhibits on sustainable aviation, Advanced Air Mobility, Quesst, and Artemis to STEM activities–and you may even meet NASA pilots, engineers, and astronauts! At Oshkosh, the sky’s the limit.
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My promotion keeps getting delayed at work and I'm really frustrated.
[Context: restaurant] I was originally told a six month timeline SIXTEEN months ago (in Promotion Manager 's defense, the training program was delayed by several months so three of us could train at once rather than run it separate three times). Since, I completed the multi month training program with two other people, and when they were told it would take 2 weeks to be promoted after finishing, it took management 7 weeks to actually follow through with them. Other current managers expressed that they weren't sure if Promotion Manager was actually going to follow through at all for our promotions or was just going to continue to string us along.
(more details and semi coherent rambling below)
I was told about a month for my promotion to go through (to work on assertiveness and being serious. My personality is naturally very goofy, but I do know when it's time to get things done and buckle down). It's been 2.5 months and going. I'm frustrated because I feel like I've more than met the goals they've set. When things come up, they think of me, and will recommend me for stuff. For example, I am going to a company sponsored event as one of the store representatives. I perform managerial duties like taking catering orders, being in charge of front of house when there's no manager up front, I open, I count the safe, I make sure things go smoothly.
I do a lot of manager shit without a manager's title or pay- which means on my resume, I'm Not A Manager. I'm only a trainer.
It's also a Known Thing for this manager to be slow about actually promoting ppl. I overheard another manager (who is roomies with Promotion Manager) say, "Yea, he just LOVES to dangle those promotions in front of you" with regards to another situation.
And I know part of this HAS to be me, because the other two people of my cohort have already been moved up. It's my fault too, but I wish Promotion Manager was more open about what that timeline may ACTUALLY be, rather than give a timeline he has no intention of following.
I know need to ask him about it, but I am scared that I will come across as pushy, or ungrateful, or that my frustration will come through and I will say something unprofessional and destroy any chance that the promotion may actually happen. I'm scared that by confronting him I'll destroy any chance of actually getting what I've been working for.
I would not be as frustrated if there weren't some managers that are actively awful at their jobs. Normally I have severe imposter syndrome - but there's one manager in PARTICULAR that has made sure I don't feel that way. He was apparently promoted when there was a severe manager shortage, but despite actively and VOCALLY complaining about his job all the time while doing only a quarter of it, he remains a manager. My trainees perform better than he does. Former trainees who quit a week in because they hated food service performed better than he does.
It wouldn't piss me off that I "need to improve" and not good enough if I and most of my coworkers weren't better employees than this guy. If he was demoted, or put on an improvement plan, or temporarily had his position suspended, I would be a lot less pissed! Because it means that there is actually a real standard that I am falling under! And that I'm not being strung along like a dumbass!
I'm just pissed and annoyed and tired and just... I'm tired of trying so hard for something I'm not going to get. I'm so tired of putting in the work for no result. I'm angry and resentful and I want to cry and scream but obviously I cannot express these feelings like that because it's immature and not productive.
Hence this sort of "journaling exercise"/call to the void of fellow Tumblr users. I just needed to get this all out for someone, anyone, to hear me. I need to complain and whine and bitch and moan and vent to another real human being while also not having to do it verbally. I needed to get the words down where I can go back and edit them into a semi coherent order when more relevant info pops in my head. I needed a space where I couldn't be interrupted, where I don't have to worry about monitoring my verbal tone, where I don't have to school my face and try not to cry. I needed a space to let it all out somewhere where no one and anyone can find it. Where no IRLs can see how much rage and resentment I have, how immature and emotional and angsty I can be.
I'm emotional. I'm sick of this, I'm angry, I'm full of rage, I'm tired of this, I'm DONE. SO fucking done. I hate it. I hate being strung along with empty promises.