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Anyway lol here's some of my thoughts on writing about the sex lives of little people, in no particular order:

In my experience (with non-little partners), my dwarfism can be an elephant in the room that myself and my partner either stigmatize or embrace. The sex is good when my partner goes at it from a place of problem solving, listening to my needs, and and not making a big deal out of my height. Know that how the situation flows is dependent on how each partner interacts with accommodating for dwarfism - is the LP self-conscious or confident? Does the non-LP feel awkward or inspired? Like all sex there will be moments where positions don't work, transitions are awkward, or things don't go smoothly - it is okay for your characters not to know what to do at first, but show them overcoming it.

To answer your specific questions - no, don't avoid writing Little sex unless you truly feel unequipped! Your disabled characters deserve sex scenes! And yes, polyamory can come with some added stigma, but plenty of disabled folks are also queer, kinky, and non-monogamous - it is deeply interwoven in disabled culture.

It's hard for me to say what a "good balance" would be for writing disabled sex - since there isn't really one for able bodied folk. Able bodied characters wax and wane from Pride and Prejudice to Fifty Shades of Grey, so it really just depends what kind of piece you're writing. On the one end, loving committed relationships can really centre disabled characters in community, while power and autonomy can also come from reclaiming sexuality.