#watchkeyphone

watchkeyphone said: whoah, how do you use YNAB for time? I just reactivated mine and I've been setting up categories and stuff (for money that is!), I'd be interested in an infodump about how you use it overall if you feel like sharing! (feel free to answer privately or publicly)

Okay so the basic idea is that I set up a separate budget (alongside my money one) in which I created an account called Time and into Time I set up a regular incoming payment of 24 units of money (£, $, whatever suits you!). 

Major Categories

I then organised my categories a bit like normal YNAB, except Quality of Life is now at the top. The major category groups are:

watchkeyphone: I mean yeah nothing wrong with being a housewife but like. you're totally not

Thanks for saying so. It’s much appreciated! I was just so shocked when I read it. I mean, I’m not married and I’m not really doing that much around the house apart from admin. I’ve also always tried so hard to make the point that I want to be ambitious with my life, although I don’t think most of the men in my family take it seriously because they think I will inevitably gain the ability to multitask and want children (magically). The women are a bit more borderline - they understand more of how women’s roles have changed but they also come from their own generation with its own arrangements. My boyfriend kind of wants to be a house husband, but he appreciates it doesn’t come with as much baggage for him.

It’s just a really weird situation to be in. I realised today that I’m technically still a postgrad student until I graduate. It’s hard to remember because the move to my boyfriend’s new university was so abrupt. So I’m not even unemployed or unoccupied, really. My dad put my sister as a TV presenter as well, I think as a play on the ‘joke’/expectation that she’ll end up as a weathergirl because she’s a woman pursuing meteorology. She’s really offended by that idea because of course she wants to be taken seriously in her profession. She wants to do the hardcore maths. My mum was shocked that he’d put those things as well. She’s from her generation in her way as well, and she wants me to be more girly because she wishes she’d been more so and she wanted to be a housewife, but she’s always seen us as people who are going to have careers because it’s how things have gone for women.

It’s really shocking when my dad comes up with these things. I think he’s a lot more conservative than he lets on sometimes, or at least he’s been taken in by reading a conservative newspaper for so long. He also just really likes to push people’s buttons for reasons no one can quite work out. I don’t think he’s that good with empathy. He’s probably where I got sperge from.

Hum. Much sigh.

isn’t there a UK sports team where it’s pronounced with a soft C as well? I’m sure I’ve heard it on the radio or something..

This is a thing that I would have liked to reblog.

I think my ideal social life would be built around ‘familiar strangers’. They’re straightforward. My relationship with them is clearly determined. They’re reliable. They are obligated to be nice to me.

These people are the shop assistants and waitresses and cafe owners whom I see regularly. Or even lecturers. Anybody where there is a structure to my relationship with them and I’m not obligated to see them informally, but with whom I can still develop a certain familiarity.

So an example of this is my favourite waitress at my favourite local tea room. She is always nice (as are the rest of the staff). In fact, they all always ask how I am, and they remember details about past experiences with me. They know what my favourite menu choices are and take care to mention their availability to me.

But I’m also not expected to go to their houses to see them, or to care for them emotionally. And I know exactly when they will be there.

I have sat outside this tearoom before just so I can go in and feel grounded. It is my feel better / treat place.

When I go alone (which is increasingly often, since ISTJ seems to be the only person who appreciates it for what it is supposed to be), I find it is best to take a book or a podcast. Books are best, though. Proper work isn’t good, but a book is.

I think it’s a bit like with most things - I don’t like being reminded of how other people see these things, because it’s depressing. It’s true that my interactions with these things and people are very structured, but they’re also really workable for me. This is how I would want my daily interactions to be with almost everyone, except for one or two people with whom I talk in-depth.

I don’t want to ask in detail about their lives because I don’t want to venture into things I can’t handle, or to break the illusion that I’m a nice, capable customer. I also don’t want to break the illusion that this is someone who values me, and whom I can get on with. I know it’s a facade, but as long as I never let myself see somebody else doing better with them, I can pretend that I’m someone who can talk to people in a way which is comfortable for me.

Every school sort of does its own thing terminology wise in Canada, so I’m not sure if this applies elsewhere or not.

Right now I’m working towards a degree called Psychology, Neuroscience, and Behaviour (mental health specialization). It’s an Honours Bachelors of Science degree, which is the standard type of 4 year science degree.

Because I’m in this specialization I get some perks, mostly my guaranteed practicum placements. It’s also a neat degree specialization, and has a few specific interesting courses and extra support for the 4th year thesis we have to do. I also have far less choice in my courses, because it’s a specialized degree within an already specific field. So I have two elective courses a year for the next 3 years. I also have the benefit of only 20 people being in my specialization, which is nice and cosy and will hopefully be incredibly supportive.

If I drop it, I will just get an Honours BSc. in Psychology, Neuroscience, and Behaviour. I have no guaranteed practical placements but if my marks are good I’d probably get them. I’d have way more electives, and could probably manage to take a number of computer science classes and other things as well. I’d still be in a small program, because even the program at large is only 60-80 people.

For now, I’ll probably stay in the program for at least this year. The additional courses I have to take, Personality & Abnormal Psychology, are ones I’m interested in anyway. My two leftover electives for now are cell biology and a neuroscientific basis for pathology course. The latter is a lot in addition to my 8 other psych or psych oriented courses, but it seems interesting.

~ crumplelush​ said:

Out of interest: who did you have your surgery with?

Victoria Rose, London, NHS. In her defence of the leftover areolae and the stretched-to-hypertrophy scars, my nipples were high up and she didn’t have a lot of spare skin to work with.

~

@watchkeyphone said:

Why does remembering the sensation make you feel panicky (if you want to answer)?

I just had this enjoyable exchange with @watchkeyphone via Telegram:

That’s Barclays bank, and the Financial Ombudsman.

Jay’s not the first person I know personally who’s managed to get a pile of cash by complaining to financial establishments about gender-inclusivity in titles, and we are finding more and more that complaining and taking complaints to the financial ombudsman is a great way to cause change.

Take your complaint to the bank or building society in writing. Tell them exactly what you want.

Don’t communicate with the bank by phone; get everything in writing so you have records. This will also make sure that they don’t try to blow you off quite so much.

The bank may try to make it go away by saying “we can offer you this partial solution and £x. If you take the money you’re agreeing not to take this complaint up again.” Don’t fall for it; if you take it to the Financial Ombudsman you’ll likely end up getting a higher amount in compensation.

If they don’t meet your terms sufficiently, take it to the Financial Ombudsman. We know from (lots of) experience that they support the inclusion of gender-inclusive titles in financial records.

Um, yes and no?