#vulcains

ive seen it being used for women who are attracted to women + nb people. like non-men i guess

I’ve recently been creating quite a lot of fat positive fics and with @chubbynevillefest just around the corner I thought I’d share some of the fanart that’s inspired my writing (and that’s also just really, really gorgeous).

@owlpostart​ 

Ron and Hermione Draco

@gin-draws 

Gryffindor Chasers Angelina Hermione

@prongsiedraws

Lily, Lily, Lily <3 <3 <3 Lavender

@pembroke

Molly Pomona Lavender

@upthehillart

Vincent Lavender Lavender (NSFW) Lavender (NSFW)

@vulcains

Fleur

@saltkat

Draco

@caroll-in

it's probably not just that they're young and fit but also sharing mutual interests. like how people fuck heaps at furry conventions

“but no ones trying to argue that [being poly] makes you inherently lgbt+” god I wish that were me

dolphins are not gorgeous

i'm ignoring the split attraction stuff and i mean ace as in, doesn't feel attraction/want relationships and all that. i think if that was me it would be a relief to meet others who felt the same u know?

@vulcains replied to your post: “The thing that bothers me the most about ace discourse is probably all...”:

i think like, GOD i don't wanna compare being aroace to being a lesbian lmao but when i came out i really noticed how isolating and alienating it is 2 exist around non-lesbians and how much everything centres around men even when you try to avoid it. so i don't know that i'd agree that ace people don't have much to bond over?

There’s definitely an element of that but unfortunately like... the split attraction model exists and there are aces who are “ace but still want sex” and “ace but still experience sexual attraction in extremely specific contexts” and all this shit, y’unno?

If it were just aroace or ace meant “does not want sex” or whatever, it’d make more sense, but the term ace has been stretched so thin to encompass pretty much EVERY relationship to sex that isn’t “loves sex all the time, would find bugs attractive if you drew a human face and dong n them” that it becomes... hard to bond over?

I agree with the isolation you’re talking about for aroace people but there are aroace peopel who have sex and relationships and it’s like...?? If you like at ace positivity (do noT), you’ll see every other post is “POSITIVITY FOR ALL THE ACES WHO HAVE SEX AND FEEL LEFT OUT OF POSITIVITY” and then the next is “POSITIVITY FOR ALL OF THE SEX REPULSED ACES WHO FEEL LEFT OUT!”

And then like... aces can be of any gender, can experience attraction to any gender, and it’s like... it’s not the same thing?

It’s like if a cishet men tried to join you to talk aout what it’s like to not be attracted to men like?? A man’s experience with being aroace would not be the same as a woman’s experience with being aroace because misogyny plays a huge role in how “aphobia” works, y’unno?

A man can get be relatively unscathed whereas a woman can’t.

And if women want spaces to talk about not wanting sex/romance in general, a lot of feminist’s spaces can accommodate that (to an extent).

I think if things were more straightforward and ace meant aroace and they were willing to concede that it’s mostly just misogyny, there’d be a lot more to bond over. But rn when we have posts like “demiromantic people are REAL aros and they’re oppressed and one of us!!” it’s like... I don’t think there’s a bonding point there.

It’s just about amassing the largest number of different people they can think of, affirming that there’s no Wrong Way to be ace or aro, which in turn leads to very little common ground.

@sleepdontvisit​ im not talking about fandom spaces though. like if someones into fandom and they about sexual stuff obviously that's not appropriate, i meant real life

@vulcains mentioned you in a post: “whitesaviorcomplex: whitesaviorcomplex: Please protect minors that...”:

@sleepdontvisit​ i disagree :/ like yes be wary of weirdos and manipulation, but older gay women helped me a lot when i was young in ways my peers never could cos they were also just kids. and i'd like to be there to help other gay kids, you know? it shouldn’t be the same as an adult friendship, but i think we can still be friends and mentor and be appropriate. this reminds me too much of the idea that gay people are predators and shouldnt be around kids?

do they honestly think resources are just like, positive vibes or something