Might be a bit emotional.
By all accounts I should heavily relate to Via. My parents were a forced arranged marriage, except instead of Stolas being gay, my mother is aroace (she doesn't know the term herself because she's LGBTQ+phobic but that's what she keeps describing to me). My father was never a good husband or father, my mother couldn't fight him much so she took it out on us, and I had to shield my little sister from both my parents. And the way they kept fighting from when I was so young, yelling, weaponising religion, asking me to "choose" one, yelling about divorce and the marriage being a mistake and guilt-tripping each other, and us children being mistakes too. My mother and I also have sufficient proof to at least suspect my father might have cheated at one or two points somehow (which adds up considering my mother has several signs that she's aroace meaning he probably wasn't happy in the marriage but still shitty).
But you know what kept me from relating to her, from feeling so deeply for her story? The framing of the narrative. Sinsmas especially made it look like she was somewhat in the wrong and Stolas could do no wrong whatsoever. And I hated that. My parents are both victims of being forced to marry, clearly they have issues and aren't compatible. But they both hurt each other, and they both hurt me. And I don't care beyond a point that they're also victims when they made me a victim too. I can't. And Helluva framing the story to be Stolas centred is fine but making Via an obstacle? Brandon calling her a "cockblocker" for being in the way of the worst power-imbalanced yaoi ship ever, and the fandom HATING her for existing and hurting their precious owl? I felt terrible. I distanced myself from her and the show. I couldn't do it anymore. That was when I unsubbed from Vivzie and never went back.
Sorry for the vent. But it hurts to see someone in a story I deeply relate to, and that character being hated and mishandled, not only by the fandom but also the showrunner herself. But "creators owe us nothing" or whatever so I'm choosing to pick up the broken pieces and carry on. It's happened before and will happen again. I guess I'll just never look at fiction for comfort.
(But still, if anyone knows a GOOD handling of a forced arranged marriage story - and something that's NOT the stupid "they fall in love later" trope - let me know, I guess.)
Thanks for being a safe space Chai.
Happy to do it, Anon. Being a safe space will have to do in lieu of the hug I wish I could give you, because good lord. I'm very sorry that all of that happened, and that Viv's handling of Via let you down.
(If fictionalized tellings of real events count, my favorite forced marriage story is The Crown. It's every bit the disaster it was in real life, and I like how it reserves the lion's share of blame for the crown itself.)