âTo the Victorians the family was a symbol of order, social stability and progress. The family was a unifying and universal norm (Nead 1988: 36) and marriage was its conventional starting point. However, Thompson (1988: 85) states many early Victorians felt that they were witnessing a 'crisis of the family' that threatened to undermine society. Despite other grave social problems, the disintegration of the family was considered the most serious and it was assumed that it was caused by the factory system, city living, irreligion and weakening traditional moral and social bonds.
Feminine rebellion against the duties and functions of childbearing and home-keeping was also considered a danger by many. The demise of parental, particularly paternal, authority signalled to [middle class] moralists and reformers the end of the family as basic unit of education and social training, and conveyer of moral habits and standards. [âŠ] these perceptions induced various reform movements and strengthened the ideology of respectability, aimed at reforming the material and cultural environment for the preservation of the family.
The middle class felt that they had to protect family ideals by guarding morality, modesty, reticence, sexual segregation, parental discipline and authority and male dominance. Middle-class privacy and property had to be protected from the decadent aristocracy or the vulgarity of the masses. These defences may also reflect the need to protect the middle class family from its own potentially self-destructive appetites and desires.â
â Catherine Lemmer; âVictorian Respectability: The Gendering of Domestic Spaceâ (2007)