#vampire headmate

System members come in all shapes, sizes, and species! Many headmates may find that they’re otherkin, copinglink, otherhearted, fictionkin, introjects, or otherwise nonhuman in one way or another. Vampire headmates in systems may find themselves in this very position! So here’s to all the vampire headmates out there, fangs and all!

To those who have always felt like a vampire, we want you to know that your vampiric identities are valid! It’s okay to be a vampire, and even if you’ve harmed others in the past, it doesn’t mean that there’s no hope for you! You are just as capable as anyone else of showing and being shown kindness, compassion, and respect!

If you’re a vampire headmate who fears things like daytime, garlic, wooden stakes, iron, or holy water, we would like to let you know that while your fears are rational, in your system you are safe from these things! It’s okay to want to experiment by going outside in the daytime or eating garlic bread from time to time. You’re not betraying your identity as a vampire and you are still definitely a vampire even if you actively engage with things that are stereotypically detrimental to them! It’s fine to want to avoid these things, or to enjoy engaging with them. Vampires can look incredibly different, and there’s no right or wrong way to be a vampire!

It’s okay to change your appearance or engage in activities that affirm your vampire identity! As long as you’re not harming others, it’s okay to experiment with your presentation and the way you behave. Wear fangs, capes, cloaks, and red contacts! Practice the way you hiss, laugh, and carry yourself! Seek out blood-red food and drinks to sustain yourself! Create a lair in your space that can provide you with a respite of darkness even during the day! Be creative and have fun with your identity as a vampire - expressing yourself in ways that make you happy doesn’t cause harm and can be immensely beneficial for your state of mind!

Whether you love being a vampire, hate it, are indifferent, or feel conflicted, know that there’s no wrong feelings and you’re allowed to feel the way you do about your nonhuman identity! Remember you are important, loved, and a valued member of your system and the plural community just the way you are.

We’re rooting for you, we believe in you, and we wish the very best for you in all that you do! Thank you so much for reading, and take care!

Definition: A term for someone who feels like part of, the majority of or all of the reason they don’t fit into the human gender binary is because of a feeling of superiority due to be being a vampire. This can be considered a kingender, or a modifier to another label, but doesn’t have to be.