"WHAT do you think you're wearing?"

and there will be this heartbreaking moment where the character is so startled and scared and maybe betrayed, and we as an audience feel it in our guts because we know all the ways this could go wrong and there's just this terrible sinking moment before it's followed up with something along the lines of,

"you should KNOW those shoes don't go with that skirt!" or "white after labor day? how could you" or "you'd look better in a blue, let me see if i have something"

and we, as an audience, are supposed to feel this overwhelming relief that the main character isn't being berated or harassed or assaulted.

i don't know about you, but i never feel relieved. i feel played. because at this point it just feels like a cheap trick for laughs: "did you see how scared they were? as if aunt becky could ever be homophobic! haha, their learned and compulsory fear of being rejected is so hilarious, right?"

not to mention, now you've got this character who's just been taunted with the threat of rejection having their lack of knowledge/skill in how they wish to present themselves shoved in their face. which is just mean, whichever way you spin it.