#urologist

I'm not a surgeon but a friend of mine took a selfie of us in this position which pretty much sounded like we were the surgeons operating on a patient.

My friends group teased us about being relationship goals and memed us "When the gynecologist injuries the patient's bladder mid-operation and she has to call her urologist husband to come to the rescue". Apparently, if I was a surgeon I'd be as aggressive as a gynecologist.

I am a surgeon. I am a urologist. In a misoginistic country, in a misoginistic system. I am good at my job. I learned and I passed every expectation in my year, in my field. Here I am still described as a FEMALE doctor, a FEMALE surgeon, a FEMALE urologist. If the people in charge of my career can’t see it, I CAN and I’ll prove myself what I am capable of. I take all the hits for the future female urologist, surgeons to be accepted for their skills and knowledge.

A doctor noted in my chart that I was non-compliant, manipulative, and trying to direct my care. Some of his reasoning:

Refused to take the extended release capsules of the medication prescribed. Also noted that I have dysphagia and a PEG tube

Told him that I needed to address the chronic UTIs before I considered overactive bladder treatments

Became concerned that I had an underlying genetic condition that was causing my issues. A lot of tests were coming back normal, but everything was very abnormal. I do have a genetic condition.

Stopped seeing my first urologist and suggested that I change doctors when they don't do what I want. My first urologist let me have 1-2 UTIs a month and wasn't trying to find a cause

"Refused to give a urine sample at any appointment" when I had been fainting a lot during transfers and they didn't have any exam tables that were wheelchair user friendly.

Communicated with them often about questions or concerns

Didn't do my 24 hour urine collection with an indwelling catheter and thus accused me of not doing it correctly and not collecting all of it in order for my results to be worse

Lying about my water intake and how much I eat

I am truly amazed by this man and the level of fragility, ego, and privilege you must have in order to see those actions as negatives with ulterior motives.