#upscale dating

What do you call placing yourself in a position that aligns with your goals? Well AI calls it “Strategic”. You’re being strategic when you place yourself in an environment where the kind of men you want to date frequent.

I’ve seen videos on TikTok saying how it is “desperate” to go to upscale restaurants, bars, lounges and coffee shops in upscale neighborhoods with the intention of meeting a man. When in reality it is the smartest thing you can do to take control of your love life. When people say things like “love will find you when you least expect it”. Can the same be said for a job that you want? Is it desperate to apply for jobs better yet should the employer just hire a random person they found on the street? It doesn’t work that way sweetie. This often will be said by people who are already in long term relationships or who want you to stay single or settle or want you to buy their course.

Place yourself in an environment to be found by the kind of man that you want. That is the best way to get what you want. Do your research. Use google to find out the information that you want to know.

1. Only go to places that you would want to be taken on a date to. Don’t go anywhere that you don’t like.

2. Order a single non alcoholic drink and if you get hungry order an appetizer, side or dessert. It will be very cheap. Or just wait until a man comes over and offers to buy you a drink and then order whatever food that you want since he is paying.

3. Be open, friendly and smile. Don’t forget to make eye contact.

How else do you expect to get the life that you want if you don’t place yourself in a position to receive it?

The early bird catches the worm meaning that it is better to show up somewhere soon than later.

From 11:50am-1:30pm business men go to lunch with their colleagues or go get coffee if they’re skipping lunch. It doesn’t matter where you go as long as it is on the nice/wealthy side of town you will see them come in flocks. I’ve witnessed this on multiple occasions, honestly go test this yourself to see and then come back to this post. Go to Starbucks, Chipotle or a nice restaurant.

From 2:50pm-6:30pm is when happy hour starts or is about to start at nice restaurants. They usually start around 3 or sometimes 4 just check google to make sure. If it starts at 3 get there at 2:50pm and if it starts at 4 get there at 3:50pm. Get there 10-15 minutes early so that you are able to observe. Also when they walk In you’ll already be sitting there. If you get there late then sit next to a man sitting alone. If the bar is full then idk what to tell you maybe sit in the lounge or at a table until a seat is available. As long as you get there within this time span then you’ll be fine.

💌: How to know if a man is interested in you vs if he’s not: When a man is interested in you he will look at you for at least 3 seconds preferably multiple times if you’re in his vicinity but if he’s not then he’ll most likely pretend that you don’t exist and not look at you twice. I swear this is how you know that they’re interested in you. I work with 95% of men so I have tested this out. The ones who are interested in you are looking for a signal that you’re interested in them too. The way to let him know that you’re interested is to make eye contact for at least 3 seconds and smile. Just do a little grin not a smile with teeth. I have tested the eye contact thing out with men at work and they usually will speak to me and smile vs if I ignore their presence and walk past them and they won’t say a word. My friend tested this out at a coffee shop and she said it works and she was approached. Some men are super bold and will talk to you regardless of if you looked at them or not, especially if they find you attractive.

Example: I was on a date and our table wasn’t ready so we were going to go sit at the bar and wait but I went a little ahead of him because he was still speaking with the hostess about our table. I sat next to this older gentleman and he spoke to me right away but my date was right behind me shortly after so it didn’t last long. Try it out and let me know what happens. I’m going free-styling tomorrow so I will update y’all.

By doing the damn thing I mean actually working toward your goals with physical action

What is it that you want in your life? What do you truly want that will make you happy? I’ll tell you what I want. I want to be able to come home without a single worry about my necessities in life but it is more than that. I want to be able to walk into any store and not worry about the price tag, a life of abundance. I want to be able to wake up to an alarm by choice, I want the alarm to go off because I want to wake up at a certain time not because I have to be at this job at a certain time in order to keep a roof over my head. This is what I want. I want to be my own boss and run my own business, this is what I want. What is it that you want?

It’s always been my dream to be my own boss and run my own company since I was 9 years old. I am now 23 and I got a little lost through out the years, nothing too heavy just being surrounded by the wrong people. I always wondered why when I would cut off every toxic person in my life I would suddenly be focused on my future but then another test would come and I would fail that test and be lost again and unhappy. Friend groups are not for me. Friend groups are usually toxic and full of so much unnecessary drama. I always felt left out in friend groups. I think I’m meant to be solo until I am so stuck on my path that it would take a literal meteor to knock me off. I prefer to have friends but not a friend group. At the moment I don’t have any friends because as you can probably guess I cut them all off. While I’ve been in Texas I haven’t made any solid friends. The people I’ve met haven’t been too consistent but ig that is for the best. I am not meant to have friends right now. I would like to have a few friends but I want true friends not fake ones. If I was meant to have friends right now I would simply have them, am I right?

Let’s get into the main topic of this post “doing the damn thing”. Just recently I’ve come into myself in a way that I’ve never before. Being content with who I am and where I am. I didn’t say comfortable I said content. Even though I am content with myself I’m still looking for ways to improve and grow in every way possible in order to reach my goals. There are things that I need to do and that I am working on in order to create my dream life. I hope this makes sense. Ik what I need to do to be successful and I need to do more than that. I need to push myself harder not like a working mule because never that. I mean I can feel that I am being lazy in certain areas that I shouldn’t be lazy in. It’s a slight adjustment and it’s not going to burn me. Pushing myself to work towards my goals is so important to me. I want to stick to a schedule, be organized and realistic with myself. I want a balance of work, rest and fun. I’ve been dabbling too much in the rest part so it’s not balanced. I will fix this in time. I have figured out a good schedule and now I just have to try it out.

I want to be able to date the kind of men I want to date. I want to be taken out to really nice places with men who are well dressed, handsome, wealthy, generous, smart, and kind. A gentleman. I have the image of the kind of men I want to date and eventually be with but in return I have to become a women of means. Turning myself into who I’ve always imagined myself to be is something I want. I want to be seen as a woman not a girl. Becoming her requires not only beauty but brains and trust me I have the beauty thing down. I am working on the other half, the brains. Me becoming my Dream version has nothing to do with a man btw but I definitely don’t want to be single forever. I want to be in a healthy relationship and I’m not going to pretend that I’m perfectly ok with being alone for the rest of my life or being 40 with no husband or kids. If that’s what you want that’s fine but that’s not what I want. When I am 40 I want to have a husband or 40 with a husband and kids no in betweens. I want to get married in my mid or late 20’s and then maybe have kids in my early 30’s. I deserve love and I deserve to be with the man of my dreams. Hello like attracts like. I’m done dating men who aren’t what I truly want. I want a Bruce Wayne archetype minus the mommy and daddy issues. I mean the look: dark hair, handsome, young and wealthy. A Mentally healthy and wealthy man. I want someone kind and adventurous with the means to give me and show me true romance. I want someone who can give me a life worth truly living. I want the career, the husband, the lifestyle and family of my dreams. So I will become the woman of me dreams. I’m only 23 and a lot can happen in a year especially with hard work. I refuse to be stagnant in life, I refuse to waste my youth doing nothing and I refuse to waste all the opportunities life has to offer when you choice to knock on the door of your dreams. With all of this being said, stop being stagnant. Stop wasting your time and do the damn thing.

I am starting from scratch so I made a list of the wealthiest neighborhoods in my city and I decided to focus on the top 4. The first 3 are basically where the super wealthy millionaires and billionaires live and the last one is where young wealthy professionals live. If I want a young wealthy man in his late 20’s early 30’s he’s most likely lives in a place that offers upscale living, conveniences with a vibrant social scene. Which makes #4 perfect. If I want a wealthy mature man then he most likely lives in a place that offers luxury living, privacy and a sense of community. Which makes the top 3 perfect but I can’t rule out anything because they both offer a mix of everything and some people will surprise you. I am open to dating men between the ages of 27-40 and 45 if he is a multi-millionaire/ billionaire. If you couldn’t tell I have done my research.

FYI: If you live in a major city then you are more likely to easily find a wealthy provider man vs if you live in a small town. I am sorry if you live in like Kentucky or something.

Last week I went to an Upscale Hotel bar. It had a restaurant, a bar and a dress code. When I tell y’all there was no competition there was no competition. I was the only young girl there other than the bartender but she looked about 28 or 30. She also looked like an IG model so I could tell that she got a job there with the intention of meeting wealthy men. It was mostly men and a few older women with their husbands. I only stayed for 15 minutes but it was interesting to observe. I would of stayed longer but something happened so I had to leave early.

(These are not photos from the place these are photos from dates btw)