#udd system

Speaking from experience, when I'm making out with someone and I'm the one on the bottom, my first instinct isn't to remember a safe word if something starts feeling uncomfortable or painful... It would be to say stop, or physically push them away

... Whenever I'm scrolling on tiktok, I often see people say that their partner begging for them to stop is 'hot', and it's treated like that's completely normal... And like... That sort of freaks me out? It makes me worry that if I ever had to beg for someone to stop, they'd assume I didn't actually mean it because they would be convinced that it's part of the moment

I mean, sure, I understand why some people my interpret it that way. Everyone has different dynamics and kinks, and that's their business. But for me personally, it just completely puts me off any sort of Intimacy...

If something is wrong, my safe word is not going to be my first thought... I'm going to say stop. And if my partner ignores that because they assume I don't mean it, then that's not someone I'd ever feel safe being with

when i open up a tiktok comment section of a video about systems and instead of other systems talking to eachother its just a bunch of singlets whining about how some people fake did .