#twolives

Yesterday I had a thought: I feel like I’m living two lives at the same time. I know that may sound dramatic and overwrought, but let me explain where that thought came from. My day usually starts around three a.m. or so, in the dark, in the middle of the night when most everyone is sleeping (or sleeping it off if it’s a weekend). I hit the road in the dark and am mostly alone with my thoughts…

A few days ago I celebrated 10 years in the UK. It's been a remarkable time in my life - I laughed a lot, cried a lot and I become me - I discovered confidence I didn't realise I had and I love I never knew possible. I have come to realise that who I am and where ever I go in life that I am still me. I exist inside myself.

I knew I had to leave my family behind as sad as that sounds. My parents are toxic and seem to create drama almost out of thin air. I see others having somewhat normal and even happy lies and they are stuck in this cycle. I have mostly freed myself of their shrapnel and selfishness. I love my Dad, but he isn't a good person in my Mom's presence. That is likely my only regret in leaving him behind. But, I have surrounded with a good person, a moral person that I greatly admire. He has taught me so much about kindness and social etiquette. I would argue before this that I wasn't actually living, I just living in a bubble. He sees me through his lens and I still me as someone riddled with flaws.

I got on plane to Manchester 10 years ago, with two suitcases, two bags and my bike to live with someone I was in love with. This couldn't have gone horribly wrong. There was even a time when I thought I might go back home, but through all our challenges I realised we stuck together no matter what. That he accepts me. Before this I was utterly intolerant of flaws or differences, but I understood that you can exist in a relationship with opposite personalities.

I am so grateful to have had two lives.

In many places where abortion is not supported, pregnant women that have been killed are considered as a DOUBLE HOMICIDE. This means that the child is automatically counted as an additional life. So, pro-lifers use this judgement to add even more pressure to their argument as they believe we must keep the same view towards abortion where this baby should be counted, again, as an additional life. This is quite a strong rationale, might I add, when you look at the debate from a more judiciary point of view.