How does a system deal with an alter that physically harms and assaults the body and the host? Weāve tried all that we can but it didnāt really work. The last time we asked someone, they basically just told us to āfigure it outā and left us to suffer. Is there anything we could do?
hello, sorry that someone didn't really provide any helpful insight, alters that harm can be stressful or hard to deal with, but it isn't impossible to help them
the most common reasons alters harm the system is due to feeling like it is necessary or they are lashing out for emotional reasons.
this can be a result of feeling like they are being ignored, not feeling responsible for/hatred of being in a system, or thinking that harm is a solution to problems/coping mechanism.
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general ways to deal with these situations :
Ā· communicate (not just telling them to stop, but asking why they want to do it. is it for themsleves, to harm the system, or both. how they answer affects how you treat the issue)
Ā· separate them from other alters and/or stop them from fronting by themsleves/fronting for long periods of time (if they cannot stop these harmful behaviours quickly, stopping them from fronting and promising that you will only slowly start allowing them to front again after they start recovering can provide an incentive for them to recover)
Ā· research ways to stop self harm and the psychology of self harm (even though these are not system related, resources that are made to help singlets with similar issues can provide an insight into maybe way this alter is reacting this way)
Ā· let them enjoy things (this may sound random, but alters who may feel angry or bitter can benefit from being given space to enjoy things or have their personal needs catered to. it can make them feel like they are appreciated for their existence and are actually part of the system instead of against it)
how to generally respond to different motives :
āŗ if they are doing it for themsleves
provide other outlets (such as writing) for them to express their emotions or thoughts without the need for harm, communicate on coping mechanisms and give resources on self harm recovery
āŗ if they are doing it to harm others
give them space to speak on their issues with the system/other alters, ask why they use harm specifically (do they feel like they can't communicate properly? is violence the only solution they know?)
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I feel horrible for ever supporting or watching Wilbur Soot. I havenāt watched anything of his since late 2022 but to know that he hurt Shelby both physically and mentally makes me very upset.
No one deserves abuse and this is why it is so important to listen to those who speak out so they can get the help they need in order to be safe from their abuser.
I donāt usually talk about serious topics on my blog but since I used to watch Dream Smp (mainly Tommy, Philza, Tubbo, Niki, and Ranbooās videos) I wanted to be clear I will not watch his videos or listen to Lovejoy any further.
I have seen abuse first hand happen to people I care about in my personal life and itās not a joking matter and it can cause damage to your mental health for years later.
Support victims in their times of healing and be there for those who you may know who may need that support system. Also understand that it is up to the victim to forgive their abuser and there is many reasons why they may feel like they do not want to.
Iāve just finished the episode where Maddie gets kidnapped by Doug and Jesus I was so scared the entire time like I obviously knew sheād survive because Iāve seen clips of her in later seasons before I started watching the show but my heart going fast every scene she was in.
In the first flashback scene I could see where things were going the minute he pulled out the glasses and said it was his mums or something and I actually felt a little sick waiting. Itās like I knew what was going to happen I just didnāt know when and it made me jump when it finally happened. It was scary but I feel the episode was well done.
I feel bad for the man at the petrol station (I think it was that) because he genuinely tried to help and Doug just killed him.
Doug is a bastard and Iām glad Maddie was able to get away from him.
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pov you find out your ex friend is saying you're abusive bc u ghosted them for sharing nsfw fics to minors, and u were tired of them harassing people that left for similar reasons.
How can I handle a fragment clinging onto something that is kinda harmful?
We have nothing against problematic alters, but this fragment is holding onto an abuser of one of our fictive's abusers and I don't know how either would react if this fragment formed into them.
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tw : abuser mention
hi, questions are perfectly okay!
in regards to alters being attached to unhealthy things, I advise you to find out why this fragment is clinging to something harmful in the first place.
reasons to think about :
Ā· is it a coping mechanism? (is there something disturbing them? are there any unresolved issues?)
Ā· are they doing it to intentionally hurt the system or fictive? (do they have something to gain by attaching themselves to this abuser?)
Ā· do they lack an original sense of identity? (it's not uncommon for fragments who naturally lack a clear sense of self to quickly latch onto characteristics/characters as a form of self preservation, and/or the brain may be preparing for the fragment to become an alter.)
potential ways to avoid this :
Ā· attempt to seperate the fragment from the abuser to avoid any more influence
Ā· figure out what makes this fragment unique and orginal, deter them from attaching their identity to this abuser (letting them explore their own identity can help them stop basing it off of the abuser)
Ā· communicate with them if you can, explain why they shouldn't be doing this
Dsmp fandom be criticizing the server for not having prison reform as if Dream didnāt literally try to use literally every single person and wouldnāt hesitate to kill any of them if they were a threat AND that everyone is supposed to suddenly be a therapist and work to help said giant abuser and actual threat to everyone on the sever despite nobody being trained to do that or having any obligation to do it.
