is there a term for the kind of abuse where someone puts you in dangerous or traumatizing situations--usually through their own negligence or by outright misinforming you about the danger, often while presenting themself as benevolent and/or having actively baited you into it, almost always while establishing or exercising power over you in some way--and then just. washes their hands of it and leaves you to deal with the aftermath? and tries to guilt YOU for having been endangered, especially if you don't successfully knuckle down and conceal that you're struggling or in pain as a result of the situation you're in because of them? and consistently either finds ways to make it worse, or finds ways to help that make them look and feel benevolent while neatly sidestepping actually getting you out of that situation?
because that is a pattern that repeated over and over and over with my ex in the half a year or so that i lived with him, which culminated in him trying to murder me by unhousing me with no money during the winter in an infamously cold and dangerous city where i didn't know anyone but him and his family, and if there's a more succinct way for me to get across that that's what happened without having to get into the weeds of Trauma Recounting every time i will happily take it lmao
