I'm sick of people acting like nondysphoric trans people have no problems. I'm tired of people acting like we're magical fairyland creatures who live in a magical fairyworld where the problems of the real world don't exist.
We're hurt just as badly by transphobia. It bothers me that nobody sees me as a man. It bothers me more that people going through the same misgendering that I'm going through also don't see me as a man.
In fact, the only problem that you have that I don't is dysphoria. Which is horrible on its own, I understand, but transphobia and misgendering are also horrible on their own.
Not only that, but the ONE group you'd think I could turn to for comfort also doesn't see me as a man...
My existence is denied by everyone. And I don't have any way to explain why you shouldn't misgender me. I don't have any way to appeal to cis people's pity. I can't tell you that it is morally wrong to misgender me, because it doesn't hurt me, it just annoys me and makes me feel like you think I don't deserve to exist.
I just have to hope that you think misgendering is wrong because misgendering is inherently wrong. The only alternative is faking gender dysphoria, which is a horrible thing to do.
-(This is Fern, by the way.)