One of my goals this pride season is to become comfortable with calling myself trans. As someone who is nonbinary but overall generally passes as a cis woman, I often feel like I don't deserve it. Because I use she/they pronouns, it can be easy for my brain to say I shouldn't be mad when I get exclusively she or am assumed cishet allo (also bi and aro). Because I haven't made any major attempts at making anyone see me differently. Because I'm pretty alright with how I look. But also. I am trans. I'm not cis. I regularly am misgendered because people see me as a woman, and I'm not. And it doesn't always hurt, but sometimes it really does, and I need to fucking acknowledge that. And remember that it's okay for me to use the trans label too. I'm pretty good at accepting that I get to call myself bi and aro, even though my relationship passes as cisromantic, but the trans thing I still struggle with. And I'm not saying my struggle is anything like anyone else's. But I am trans, and I often don't let myself claim that.