If you’re a female, you have most likely been catcalled in your life at least once.  In case you don’t know what catcalling is, it is when a stranger (usually a male accompanied by other males), tells you something or yells you something while you’re walking in the street, or essentially anywhere. It will sound something like: “EY BABY, COME OVER HERE” or “DAMN GIRLLL, YOU LOOKIN’ FINE!” or it can also be a whistle, car honks or “MHMM MHMMM” also often accompanied by sexual movements....
 ….. you get the point.
So, this is a pretty common thing that happens every day to women walking on the street. Not only to good looking women but to every woman. Every time I walk somewhere, I am actually afraid to be cat called by guys walking by, guys in cars, guys anywhere near me.
When it happens, I usually just ignore it completely, but it always makes me feel super uncomfortable, kind of freaked out and disgusted.
“But… It was just a compliment? Jeez, don’t get so worked up!”
This is what some people will say in response to people like me who get pissed off when getting cat-called. Are you freaking kidding me? A compliment? You must not know what a compliment is. Let me help you with that, you dumb, dumb person.
Compliment:
 “A polite expression of praise or admiration.”
Can you find the key word here? POLITE.
Polite:
“Having or showing behavior that is respectful and considerate of other people.”
What are the key words here? RESPECTFUL and CONSIDERATE:
Considerate :
“Careful not to cause inconvenience or hurt to others. Showing careful thought. ”
If that doesn’t clarify anything for you, catcalling is extremely disrespectful. You are basically harassing someone. You are making someone else feel uncomfortable and unsafe.
And this is without mentioning how dumb people who catcall look while doing it. They are trying to look "cool" for their friends, and they act that way because society makes them feel like they have to objectify women to feel manly or seem manly. It's RIDICULOUS! They can't talk to women like regular people! And this is often because they fail to see women as regular people, which is a HUGE fucking problem.Â
If you are with a group of your friends and one of your friends see’s a woman walking and says something inappropriate, I demand you have the decency to smack him in the face, or tell him to shut the fuck up.Â
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Have you ever felt like you wanted to say something or do something but never had the "gutts" to do it? I'm not talking about going sky diving, or doing something illegal... I'm talking about the comfort zone. What is the comfort zone you ask? It is anything that is safe and familiar. Anything that you are used to, that you’re afraid to change and has zero risk involved.
So this can be your group of friends, your regular activities, your school, your current job that you’ve become comfortable with, etc… And this is also your level of comfort in being yourself around new people. Most people who are afraid to stepping outside of their comfort zone are worried about what others think of them, don’t take much risk in life and have a harder time being themselves around people they meet. And that seriously sucks, and is why I wanted to discuss it a bit today and tell you why it’s important to step outside of your comfort zone.
Stepping outside of your comfort zone allows you to learn more about yourself, grow as a person and it’s honestly super liberating once you start doing it regularly. Think about it, it’s the people who aren’t afraid of making a fool out of themselves that are the people who are the most memorable in life! Stepping outside of your comfort zone can be hard, but if you never do it, your life will most likely be pretty boring. People complain a lot about this, “Ugghh my life sucks… Why doesn’t anything exciting happen to me? Why aren’t I enjoying life as much as this person or that person?”
Let me tell you why! Because you don’t do anything out of the ordinary or that you feel uncomfortable doing! You don’t take opportunities that are presented to you because you are too scared! You care too much what others think of you, and don’t want people to think your weird! But let me tell you a secret… being weird is actually the equivalent of being awesome. This is not a joke, I am serious!
Here’s a list of things I’ve done in the past year that I had to step outside of my comfort zone to do, and that I am pretty proud of :
-Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Stood up for myself
-Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Voiced my opinion on social media and in real life
-Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Attended parties where I only knew 1 person
-         Frosh guide for the school’s student body – by myself, not knowing anybody
-         Frosh guide next year for my faculty – without any close friends
-Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Hosted a couple parties
-Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Became Director of translation for my student council for year 2014-2015
-         Moved out of my parent’s house, into a house with 4 girls, all of whom I didn’t know
-Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Â Decided to go on exchange for one semester studying in Hong Kong!
Now, after taking all of those steps, which weren’t the easiest to do, I guess you could say that now I am pretty comfortable stepping outside of my comfort zone, if that makes any sense! But I am so glad I was able to do those things. Because of it, I met so many new people, which some are now very good friends of mine, made plenty of new memories, built my confidence, pushed myself, and I have absolutely zero regrets! I still have some work to do, sometimes I’m still afraid of what others will think of me, or I have a hard time being myself around new people, but it is something I work on every day and I have made so much progress from last year.
If you can do one small thing, even if it’s just going to a different bar than the one you usually go to, or if its standing up for yourself or for a friend. Trust me, once you start doing little things like that, it will become easier and easier to continue stepping outside of your comfort zone. You will grow as a person, become more confident and simply feel more alive! It’s amazing!
Trust me, making the decision to go to Hong Kong for a semester wasn’t an easy one, it is probably the most adventurous thing I’ve ever done. Going to the other side of the planet, all by myself and where the culture is extremely different, I think it’s the most I’ve ever stepped outside of my comfort zone, and as much as it was scary, I am SO happy! I am super excited, and proud of myself for doing this, I can’t wait! But if it weren’t for all of the other smaller steps I took, this probably would have been too scary for me.
So I challenge everyone to do one small thing, something “risky”, and by risky I don’t mean dangerous or illegal lol, I mean something like the things I listed. You will feel great after and you will have that excitement in life you are looking for!
