#thoughtform

for us, we really like distinguishing "real headmate" and "characterized train of thought that is specifically to play out some sort of scenario, but not a headmate" by calling the latter Thoughforms.

Okay so this is a bit loaded in the way it's worded, but I'm going to answer anyhow because this is information that needs to be out there. I don't know if you, anon, are planning on making a tulpa, but this is important stuff to talk about regardless.

Does the host control who fronts? In some systems, yes. In others, no. A lot of tulpas are perfectly happy not fronting or only fronting occasionally, while others might want to share the front a lot more often. Sometimes they need help to get into front, and you have to work together to help them be able to. Sometimes they can do it on their own easily. Sometimes they will have no interest in learning to front or interact with the outside world. After all, they're a person once you make them one, and they can at that point have their own feelings and desires.

A tulpa's potential wants and desires need to be accounted for before creating one. If your tulpa turned out to want to be very involved in living, you need to account for that. Would you be okay sharing 50% of your own front time with another person? Would you be okay sharing your things? Your money? Your life overall? And on the flipside, if they didn't want to do much at all, would you be okay with that? Would you be okay with them not wanting to meet your friends, or ever front, or do things in your body? The bottom line is to remember you'll be making a whole, entire person, and essentially you'll need to compromise with them as if they're a roommate. The difference is that they're a roommate that shares your life and your body for the forseeable future, and you need to account for that.

This brings us to your second question, can you "get rid of" them or force dormancy? Well... Technically, yes, you can do those things. However, your tulpa is a person. A real, living, thinking and feeling person that you have created. To force them to be dormant is to force a person to no longer be alive, essentially killing them. You can argue that a tulpa is a part of your brain and therefore it's fine, but frankly dehumanization of that level is horrible and happens to headmates all too often. They have an independent thought process, they think, so they are a person. They are alive. Yes you made them, but they are their own being. The life of a headmate is valuable, as much as any other, and if you're not ready to keep that in mind and work with your tulpa instead of "getting rid of" them the moment you don't get along anymore, you're not ready to have a tulpa. You can't put your physical children away if you no longer want them, you can't put your physical friends away if you no longer want them, you shouldn't be able to do that to a tulpa.

Others may have different opinions, but last we checked, the general consensus is that you really shouldn't go around making tulpas and then forcing them into dormancy when you're done with them or you have disagreements or anything else. Technically you can, but ethically it isn't an option. There's nuances about it of course, and I won't go into those here because it's not the point. At a baseline, you shouldn't "force dormancy" as you said, especially seeing as "force" implies the tulpa has no agency in this decision whatsoever.

i’ll let yall ask any one of em any questions you may want to ask (in the comments) and i’ll have them respond

(disclaimer: this is not a system of any kind, i do not have DID or related conditions, i’m still all one guy. they all kinda just hang around in my head talking and chatting without controlling me, none of them ‘front’ (although i can put to word what they say). it’s like having a bunch of imaginary friends)

(disclaimer 2: i am a minor, so keep questions SFW. if one of them starts responding to the question in a suggestive manner (which is quite common for sexuality/romance) i’ll choose a different thoughtform to respond with)

I have a dæmon, two to be exact

Before I discovered dæmonism I was already conversing with them but only in times of high stress when I really needed them the most. One stressful day I was thinking to myself and then my mind responded. Parts of my stream of consciousness became separate entities of their own. I cant remember how long ago this was but it's been a while now. As time went on we then took the time to figure out what they look like and what name they liked. The more I interacted with bonds/imaginaries/ect and heard others talk about their experiences, the more tangible they became. It was like seeing other more flushed out people made us want to 'separate' more. I started establishing permanent separation between us. Then I started looking for terms. I wanted to know what they were. I settled on imagimancy first; chalking them up to being imaginaries. Which I guess is still sorta a correct term, but they feel a lot more than just imaginary friends. I also considerd they might be OC soulbonds but that wasn't right either. They're to autonomous to be imaginaries but not autonomous enough to be soulbonds. Also the fact they where more like reflections of me with there own form and less like an entirely separate person pointed me away from both. Someone pointed me in the direction of dæmonism after hearing my experiences and after research I've realized that's what they were.

I'm probably not going to talk it all and only stay with The Dæmonism Forum but if you ask me a question, I'll answer.

Them